7 Things which can ruin Any Relationship!

The relationship is a kind of bonding of love, care, concern & trust which two persons share. It takes a lot of time, efforts & patience to form a mutual bonding between two individuals.

It is not an overnight process. But sometimes we undervalue the whole concept of maintaining a bond and create misunderstanding.

Here are the 7 seven things which can ruin any relationship!

*Disrespect and unacceptance for your partner

*Hide your real face and personality

*Lack of love, care and concern towards your partner after a time period

*Any sort of cheating(Financial or Emotional)

*Confused and selfish nature of an Individual

*Oversensitive, Overpowering, overprotective and hyperactive behaviour of your partner

*The Negative approach to deal with any kind of situation

1. Disrespect & Unacceptance for your partner-

We are not now in the Eighties where we don’t have any right to choose our partner without any fear. Now we can choose and if not in your case, at least can know about your would-be partners.

And I believe we should go like this only. If we are going to build any relationship then the basics must be very clear.

Blindly choose anyone to live with the whole life is absolutely not a good idea at all.

While choosing the partner please don’t be over-emotional. Please watch the overall personality and if you are satisfied with it then only go for it.

If you both have mutual capabilities, you accept both plus and minus of each other’s personality then only step forward for any commitment.

After entering a committed relationship, I believe both should have respect and acceptance for each other.

One cannot have the right to do any type of humiliation for any small or big things.

2. Hide your real face and personality-

In the initial days of any relationship both the partners want to show only the good side of theirs, so-called goody goody image.

I believe every person has both the sides to some extent, nobody is completely perfect in all the zoners. If he or she is only showing the goody face, there is something fishy.

Here I am not pointing out the good behaviour of any person. Just trying to say every person has some behavioural traits which he or she can hide only for sometime later when they find their partner’s confidence in them, they go in the comfort zone and started showing the real face which is not good at all. This is not applicable in all the scenarios.

So don’t try to be fake at any moment of your relationship. Be real, Be what you are and try to overcome your flaws.

3. Lack of love, care, concern towards your partner after a time period-

Every person wants there should be one person in their life who love and care for them unconditionally. After going into a relationship they expect this love and care from their partners for a whole life.

But the certain circumstances comes in their life where priorities changes and they couldn’t show their concerns and then misunderstandings take place.

This is the real test of your bonding, if you know and understand your partner feeling then only you can able to make him realise that what we are lacking?

Both the person should handle this situation maturely. Fight and arguments are absolutely not a good idea. Sit and talk about things might be work better.

It is true When the responsibilities increase we slightly divert from our relationship goals. We think we need not prove our love and concern to our partner but it is not like that there is always a warmness needed in a healthy relationship.

So whatever going outside shouldn’t affect your personal life much. Always try to find out some personal moments which can enrich your relationship with love.

4. Any kind of cheating( Financial or emotional)

Trust is the main root cause for making any relationship healthy and loyal.

Any kind of cheating must spoil your relationship life long. If you can’t trust each other then it’s better to walk out from the relationship because If you don’t trust, you wouldn’t respect and devote your hundred per cent to your relationship.

Financial cheating can be digested to some extent but the emotional cheating can’t be. If you lose the emotional trust on your partner, it takes a lot of time to regain and restart the things smoothly.

Be loyal to yourself and of course with your partner too.

5. Confused and selfish nature of an Individual-

We can’t be selfish always. We live in a society where we play different roles at the same time.

If you are not respectful of your parter’s family and expect her fully involvement from her side, things will not be working for a long time.

“Give respect and get respect” is the key for securing any relationship to ruin.

At the same time, confused personality people also spoil their relations in the absence of situation handling power.

They want to put forward their points but lack of confidence or some other reasons they fail to communicate and go in the mess.

Here your clean and soft behaviour can save you from relationship’s mishaps.

6. Oversensitive, Overpowering, Overprotective and Hyperactive behaviour of your partner-

Every person wants a simple and peaceful life where they can work and live their lives peacefully.

But if one of their partners is over sensitive, overpowering, overprotective or hyperactive then the life becomes hell.

Because these type of persons react very often with their blunt and dry behaviour. They don’t even to try to understand other partner’s emotion but only try to satisfy their ego anyhow.

Onesided overpowering relationships never work for anyone. In this relationship, one person always suffers from the over-sensitive behaviour of others.

Individual space is always needed for a healthy relationship. One doesn’t force another person only he or she loves that person. Individual identity and individuality is also an important factor in anybody’s personality.

So giving a healthy space is equally important and don’t try to overpower your partner with your hyperactive behaviour and approach.

7. The negative approach to deal with any kind of situation-

Negativity drags you in the clueless situation where you don’t even see the positive and good sides.

Nobody likes negative people who often talk about negatives and pull them in the negativity in every single conversation.

If your partner does so then it is the worst for you because then there is no need for any enemy, he or she will demoralise you with their negative talks and vibrations.

No one can bear negative vibrations for long whether it is coming from your partner. Slowly slowly another person will maintain the distance so that he or she can breathe in the fresh air of positivity.

If a partner has this problem then another partner should help to come out of this psyche.

“A positive environment with positive people can push you back to the path of the positivity.”

Otherwise, a negative thought can ruin all your happiness and faith in your relationship.

These are the seven things which can ruin any relationship. If you are also suffering from some relationship issues try to figure out soon with the valid solutions.

I will meet you in the next one, till then take care of your relationships.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

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