Self Doubt! How to handle it? Reasons and Solutions!

We live in a society where most of the people discourage you when you decide to step out from your shell of comforts.

Isn’t?

Yes! It happens. They start questioning your abilities on your previous performances. This phenomenon creates a Self Doubt to the person who is trying badly to achieve their goals.

Here I will discuss Self-doubt.

What is Self-Doubt?

When a person lacks confidence about what he is doing or wants to do and not feeling capable to fulfil that. This is called Self Doubt.

Do believe in others perception about you and underestimate the power of your inner strength and believe is called self-doubt.

Reasons for Self Doubt-

There are lots of reasons which create self-doubt. Some are a comparison, past experiences and failures, peer pressure etc.

1.Comparison-

The most dangerous factor for creating the self-doubt. We start comparing ourselves to others for whatever reasons.

We underestimate our skills. We compare the two different things without knowing the basics about that particular.

Comparing a fish to a bird is never a good idea. Do a realistic comparison after assessment of the current situation.

Live in fantasy and ignoring the facts always drag you in the dark.

2.Past Mistakes or failures-

The second biggest factor for creating the self-doubt is fear of the failure.

Tell me, who is perfect in the world?

We are human beings, we have ambitions, aspirations and some predefined targets.

We try to do things, make mistakes, correct it and try to make it favourable for us.

Think for a while!

If we dream for perfection always how things will work for us?

Mistakes and failures are the keys to the solid path of the Success.”

3. Performance Pressure-

We can’t perform the best always. Accept the lows and flaws with dignity.

There would be time and situations where we feel left out. Things will not work as the same as we expect before.

It’s ok. Rather taking the pressure and creating a big mess in comparison to before, try to sort out things wisely.

Understand the demand of the situation and then react.

4.Unexpected situations-

This is life. Up and downs will come. In some days you will feel on the top of the world and in the remaining rest days will face the real challenge for your survival.

What will you do?

Will Give up or show the fighting spirit?

Unexpected situations help to evolve the better person who is ready to face the odds by finding their solutions.

By Cursing to the bad situations you are only wasting your time and effort.

Instead of that accept the reality with a big heart and focus the solutions.

How can one handle the self-doubt situation?

1. Don’t expect for approvals-

Believe in your skills. Don’t be scared. If you are confident enough about your decision. Don’t seek and expect for approvals in the starting. First, try to start doing the things on your own, later you will get the path automatically.

2. Don’t compare your things with others-

You are an individual with an interest in different areas. How can you expect or another person expect that both of you will perform with the same intensity and especially in the same area?

Think about it.

3. Don’t underestimate your skills-

Believe in yourselves. Evaluate yourself. You are the best person who knows the best about you.

Believe in producing the better. Don’t give up on things which are bothering you and creating the obstacles in your path.

4. Flush out the negatives, Stay Positive-

Positive attitude, positive thinking always adds an extra bonus in your life.

Negativity will always drag you in the big zero where you can’t multiply your values and only get a zero in the result.

A positive attitude shouldn’t be a liability it is an asset which we are applying for ourselves, not for the sake of the others.

Meditation adds that a stable state of mind in our personality.

You can watch the related medication video to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence.

https://youtu.be/taA33Mtvi0E

These are some basics solutions which can help for reducing the self-doubt tendency.

I always believe in the philosophy, Listen to everyone but in the end, do only what you want to do or what gives you the satisfaction.

“If you are right and not compromising with your values, strength and efforts, self-doubt situations will never bother you.”

#deepikawrites

With a positive note, I take your leave. Will meet in the next one, till then take care and be optimistic.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

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Happy Teacher’s Day!! Types of Teachers

Wishing a very Happy Teacher’s Day to all the lovely teachers out there.

Happy Teacher’s Day!

Teachers are the path makers. Mother is the very first teacher who introduces us to basic life learning skills. We grow up and travel various phases of life and meet various types of teachers. Here is my interpretation of the types of teachers.

Types of teachers-

According to me, there are two types of categories of teachers.

1. Physically exist teachers

2. Abstract teachers

Let’s elaborate this.

1. Physically exist teachers-

They are the one who guides us to decide our path of life. They are our parents and our classroom teachers who shape our lives. They are very strict and very loving at the same time. They react according to the situations.

They are the most selfless persons who really wish for our progressive future.

(a)Parents-

Parents are the one who introduces morality and basic life skills at the very early stages. That background really matters to groom our personality and believes. They are actually our role models. We mostly adopt and follow their habits and actions.

(b) Classroom teachers-

They are the second most important learning pillar in our life. A good teacher can change all the negatives by their charismatic influence. After parents, we spent a lot of precious time with our teachers. We think they are only teaching subjects but actually, they are teaching how to deal with the subjects which we realise afterwards.

So these are the one by whom we interact physically, listen to them and want to follow their teachings.

Now come to the second type of category.

2.Abstract teachers-

(a)Life experiences-

These experiences are our abstract teachers. We can’t see but can feel and learn from those situations at every crucial point of our life. These are the practical learning which we can’t gain by reading the theoretical summary.

We go to the practical field of life, do mistakes, find solutions, improve our skills.

This is the continuous and never-ending learning process that gives us a chance to improve the previous situations and mishaps.

(b) Our inner consciousness-

Everything can go wrong but inner consciousness never. Our inner consciousness always pushes us to select the right path. A strong voice comes whether we try to do something wrong and not appropriate to nature’s law. That voice tries to stop us. It is up to us whether we apt or not.

If we listen to that voice it becomes a companion otherwise due to continuous negligence go to shell and after this, we can’t listen anymore.

Now it is again up to us whether we want to take it further.

Difference between Physical and Virtual teachers-

Virtual teachers like Life experiences and inner consciousness because those do not physically exist don’t force you at all. That indicates you, try to show the right path but in the end, leave the decision on your consciousness.

Parents and teachers never give up on their kids and students. They know that they can help to improve the mistakes so they use their full capabilities to correct the areas of lacking.

That is a different topic whether we appreciate their efforts or not?

Now I end this with the quote. I hope you like today’s little different approach. I will catch you in the next one.

“We learn from our mistakes and develop a sense of selection, what is right and what is wrong? Who ignore their life experiences, regret afterwards.”

#deepikawrites

You can read famous quotes about teachers here.

https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/teacher-quotes

Happy Teacher’s day again. Show your love and gratitude towards both the teachers.

Regards and gratitude,

Deepika

औरत: तेरी कहानी

दिल भर सा आता है अगर नज़र डालती हूँ औरतों की जिंदगानी पर।

क्या खूब क़िस्मत बनाई है रब ने उनकी, अक्सर कसी जाती है दूसरों की बनाई कसौटियों पर।

सबको खुश करने के चक्कर में उसकी अरमानों की पोटली कहीं पीछे छूट जाती है।

अलग अलग वज़हों से ही सही, न जाने कितनी बेड़ियों में बाँधी जाती है।

आज भी हम उठ नहीं पाए है, ओह! आपके घर बेटी हुई है,की मानसिकता से।

लड़कों के लिए अलग और लड़कियों के लिए बनाई गयी अलग परिभाषाओं से।

क्यूँ इस पुरुष प्रधान समाज में महिलाओं का वो दर्ज़ा नहीं है?

क्यूँ वो दो दो घर होने के बावजूद किसी एक का भी अभिन्न हिस्सा नहीं है?

क्यूँ उसे परिभाषित किया जाता है अलग अलग उपमाओं में?

क्यूँ वजूद तलाशना पड़ता है अपना उसे अतीत की परछाइयों में?

जहाँ जन्म लिया, ये तो पराया धन है, कहकर विदा कर दिया जाता है।

और दूसरी ओर, ये तो दूसरे घर से आई है, कहकर सच में पराया कर दिया जाता है।

पूरी ज़िंदगी लगाने के बाद भी क्यूँ एक जगह उसकी अपनी नहीं बन पाती है?

कभी पिता तो कभी पति के नाम के साथ जुड़कर रहना ही उसकी तकदीर बन जाती है।

उसे और कुछ नहीं बस सम्मान और अपनापन चाहिए।

कोई न लगाए प्रश्न चिन्ह उसके व्यक्तित्व पर, उसे ये भरोसा चाहिए।

आशा करती है वो कि एक औरत की आवाज दूसरी औरत के द्वारा उठाई जाएगी।

जो उसने झेला है कभी, समय आने पर दूसरी औरत को झेलने से बचाएगी।

माँ: एक फ़रिश्ता

शब्दों का जादू उसे खूब चलाना आता है,
वो माँ है, उसे सब पता चल जाता है।

मेरी आवाज से भाँप जाती है वो मेरे दर्द की गहराई को,
क्यूँ माँ? सच है ना,आप जान जाती हो, मेरी हर अनकही सच्चाई को

शब्द कम पड़ जाते है,जब भी लिखने बैठती हूँ आप के बारे में,
अब समझ पाती हूँ माँ, आपकी हर डांट के पीछे छिपी हुई भलाई को।

कहना चाहती हूँ बहुत कुछ, दिल में छुपा हुआ है।
आप का हाथ सिर पर हमेशा बना रहे बस, रब से इतनी सी दुआ है।

ऊपर भगवान और नीचे आपका कोई मोल नहीं है।

कौन पिरो सकता है माँ की ममता को शब्दों में, मेरे लिए तो ये सबसे पवित्र और अनमोल है।

आपकी हर सीख अब याद आती है माँ,हैरान हूँ तब इसे क्यूँ झुठलाती थी मैं माँ।

अजीब विडम्बना है, समय लगता है समझने में,बाद में तो सबसे अच्छी दोस्त बन जाती है माँ।