उलाहना

दूसरों पर ऊँगली उठा देना बहुत आसान होता है।
खुद को मासूम और उसको गुनहगार बता देना बहुत आसान होता है।

कभी फुर्सत हो तो बैठो और सुनो हाल ए दिल उसका भी,
शायद समझ पाओ कि हर सच को झूठ बता देना बहुत आसान होता है।

अंदाज़ा तभी लगाया जा सकता है मजबूरियों का उनकी,
गर खुद गुज़रे हो उस दोराहे से कभी।

ऐसे तो हर कोशिश पर उनकी सवाल उठा देना बहुत आसान होता है।
खुद के किये हुए को सही और दूसरों के व्यक्तित्व पर पैबंद लगा देना बहुत आसान होता है।

~©®दीपिका

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5 Signs That A Husband Should Understand!

Husband wife relationship is the most beautiful and selfless relationships on the planet if they both understand and value the bond of love and understanding.

There are 5 following signs when a husband should understand that his wife is not happy and she needs her husband’s support, love, concern and attention to come out from this.

https://marriagetoday.com/marriagehelp/wifes-expectations-marriage/

5 Signs That A husband Should Understand-

*Sudden change in wife’s behaviour

*Sudden incline to be silent

*Less interested in healthy arguments

*Less involvement in her favourite areas of interest

*Repetitive emotional break downs

1.Sudden Change in wife’s behaviour-

This is the first alarming sign in the 5 following signs that a husband should understand. Maybe possible he found his bubbly and super active wife suddenly has gone in her own shell. She is less interested in cracking jokes now. Most of the super exciting things which gave happiness to her earlier now are treated as the routine.

2. Sudden decline to be silent-

The second sign that a husband should understand that his wife adopted a trait of quietness for a long. She is less interested in sharing her feelings and thoughts with her husband. Earlier she eagerly waited for her husband. As he entered the room a big fat smile came at her face but now she behaves that she doesn’t care about who is coming and who is going?

3.Less Interested in healthy arguments-

Healthy arguments between husbands and wives make their relationships strong.

When they both confront each other with their demands and expectations there is no chance that they will end the discussion without a solution.

But when the possibilities are blocked from either side or especially from the wife’s side, the husband should take this seriously.

Less interest in any type of conversation is the third sign that a husband should understand.

4.Less Involvement in her favourite areas of interest-

Creativity is the beauty of a woman’s personality. She loves to do and explores the areas which she never touches.

But when her areas of interests take a back seat or the least priority in her routine, the husband should understand his wife is not happy with the current situations or the scenarios of her life.

Those things are not giving her that happiness and satisfaction which she felt earlier while doing.

5.Repetitive Emotional break downs-

When she starts reacting on even those smallest things which didn’t matter for her earlier.When she starts to feel helpless and alone for whatever reasons. When she changes into a highly sensitive person and loses her temper.When she starts questioning and doubting herself with blaming and cursing for every odds situations in the family.

What Should A Husband Do?

If his wife is suffering from above-mentioned issues, then the husband should understand that this is not normal, his wife needs his help, his concern, his love, his time and his attention.

She is expecting help from her husband’s side. But most of the time husband is not able to understand these alarming signs which should be considered as a priority for their happy married life.

Next time when you as a husband observe these signs please be alert and talk to your wife and try to understand her point of view.

Please try to know what are the things which are torturing her and she is losing her interest from all her most favourite things.

This is not as difficult as you are thinking, just try to take initiative once. She is waiting for one true effort from her husband’s side too. Your one step will melt all the ice between the conversation.

So What are you waiting for?

Want to know about the rules for a happy married life!

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/09/24/11-rules-for-making-indian-marriages-happy-and-peaceful/

Go ahead!

Best wishes for all your genuine efforts!!

Regards and Gratitude,

Deepika

मन की शांति

जीती थी जो औरों की मन की शान्ति के लिए,
गैरों की हँसी और अपनों की खुशी के लिए।

आज देखकर उसे एक नया अनुभव हुआ,
छोड़ते हुए जिसने कड़वे लम्हों को पीछे, खुद के लिए जीने का निश्चय किया।

कट तो रही थी ज़िंदगी यूँ भी शनै: शनै:।
पर सलीके से ज़िंदगी जीने के लिए कुछ नए पैमानों को गढ़ा गया।
कुछ छोड़ा तो कुछ नया रचा गया।

बदल रही है अब उसकी भी सोच बदलती हवाओं के साथ,
खो नहीं सकती अब शांति वो भी अपने मन की, हर बदलती जरुरतों के साथ।

एक नया आशियाँ अब उसने भी बनाया है।उस अँधेरी रात के बाद फिर नया सवेरा आया है।

ज़िंदगी जीने के तरीके अब उसके भी बदल गए है।कुछ और ना सही पर उसके हौंसलों को पंख मिल गए है।

अब मुश्किल है शायद पीछे मुड़ना, मंजिलों की राहों को छोड़ कर,

यूँ ही चलते चलते अब इन राहों पर ज़िंदगी जीने के नए बहाने मिल गए है।

You can read another Hindi poem here.

Aurat Teri Kahani”

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/08/30/aurat-teri-kahani/

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Self Doubt! How to handle it? Reasons and Solutions!

We live in a society where most of the people discourage you when you decide to step out from your shell of comforts.

Isn’t?

Yes! It happens. They start questioning your abilities on your previous performances. This phenomenon creates a Self Doubt to the person who is trying badly to achieve their goals.

Here I will discuss Self-doubt.

What is Self-Doubt?

When a person lacks confidence about what he is doing or wants to do and not feeling capable to fulfil that. The phenomenon is called Self Doubt.

Do believe in others perception about you and underestimate the power of your inner strength and believe is called Self-Doubt.

You can view a video on Self Doubt by Priyanka Nair (Mental Health Awareness Blogger)

https://youtu.be/v0Fq_WACdBo

Reasons for Self Doubt-

There are lots of reasons which create self-doubt. Some are comparisons, past experiences and failures, peer pressures, unrealistic goals.

Reasons for Self Doubt-
1.Comparison
2.Past mistakes or failures
3.Performance Pressure
4.Unexpected Situations

Let’s discuss in the detail.

1.Comparison-

The most dangerous factor for creating self-doubt is comparison. We start comparing ourselves to others for whatever reasons.

We underestimate our skills. We compare the two different things without knowing the basics of that particular thing.

Comparing a fish to a bird is never a good idea. Do a realistic comparison after assessment of the current situation.

Live in fantasy and ignoring the facts always drag you in the deep dark.

2.Past Mistakes or failures-

The second biggest factor for creating the self-doubt is fear of the failure.

Tell me, who is perfect in the world?

We are human beings, we have ambitions, aspirations and some predefined targets.

We try to do things, make mistakes, correct it and try to make it favourable for us.

Think for a while!

If we dream for perfection always how things will work for us?

Mistakes and failures are the keys to the solid path of the Success.”

3. Performance Pressure-

We can’t perform the best always. Accept the lows and flaws with dignity.

There would be time and situations where we feel left out. Things will not work as the same as we expect before.

It’s ok.

Rather taking the pressure and creating a big mess, by comparing them, try to sort out things wisely.

Understand the demand of the situation and then react.

4.Unexpected situations-

This is life. Up and downs will come. In some days you will feel on the top of the world and in the remaining rest days will face the real challenge for your survival.

What will you do?

Will Give up or show the fighting spirit?

Unexpected situations help to evolve the better person who is ready to face the odds by finding their solutions.

By Cursing to the bad situations you are only wasting your time and efforts.

Instead of that, accept the reality with a big heart and focus the solutions.

How can one handle the self-doubt situation?

1. Don’t expect for approvals-

Believe in your skills. Don’t be scared. If you are confident enough about your decision.

Don’t seek and expect for approvals in the starting. First, try to start doing the things on your own, later you will get the path automatically.

2. Don’t compare your things with others-

You are an individual with an interest in different areas.

How can you expect or another person expect that both of you will perform with the same intensity and especially in the same area?

Think about it.

3. Don’t underestimate your skills-

Believe in yourselves. Evaluate yourself. You are the best person who knows the best about you.

Believe in producing the better. Don’t give up on things which are bothering you and creating the obstacles in your path.

4. Flush out the negatives, Stay Positive-

Positive attitude, positive thinking always adds an extra bonus in your life.

Negativity will always drag you in the big zero where you can’t multiply your values and only get a zero in the result.

A positive attitude shouldn’t be a liability it is an asset which we are applying for ourselves, not for the sake of the others.

Meditation adds that a stable state of mind in our personality.

You can watch the related medication video to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence.

https://youtu.be/taA33Mtvi0E

These are some basics solutions which can help for reducing the self-doubt tendency.

I always believe in the philosophy, Listen to everyone but in the end, do only what you want to do or what gives you the satisfaction.

“If you are right and not compromising with your values, strength and efforts, self-doubt situations will never bother you.”

#deepikawrites

You can also read about the self-encouragement in the form of poetry.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/04/23/day21-self-encouragement/

With a positive note, I take your leave. Will meet in the next one, till then take care and be optimistic.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika