Time management for Home Makers

“Time Management” is the process of organizing and planning the time.

This is the art of dividing and spending time on specific activities according to their priorities to increase productivity.

The main objective of Time Management is to reduce the time which we spend on non-productive activities.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day and the real challenge is how to manage and utilise these hours in a productive way.

This really makes a difference a lot how we are utilising our 24 hours and what output we are getting through it.

Now come to today’s topic, I am also a homemaker and as a homemaker, it is a very difficult task for me too to distribute my time between my priorities and needs.

This is absolutely true, as a homemaker we have lots of responsibilities towards our family and kids. The most hectic part of a homemaker is to follow almost the same daily routine.

Here I want to share that I am also a mother of two small kids and with kids, life may be unpredictable, messy and the more stressful because all the things don’t always go as planned with them. So we have to accept this truth and act accordingly.

Here are some rules which I follow might be helpful for you all. These are::

1. Do Planning for according to our family needs

If you are not able to do, a whole week planning so at least you should go for daily planning. For daily planning, we have to categorise the things according to the schedule. This will help you to be sorted for the rest of the day. Daily planning we can do in the night for the next day.

2.Set the routine especially for the morning time

The morning routine can be the lifesavers. If we get success to set our morning routine smartly then rest will set automatically because most of the prioritize work we have already finished in the morning but the only condition is this we have to follow the routine strictly.

We have the maximum energy in the morning so we have to plan the things according to this and utilise the time efficiently.

3. Make a to-do list

Set the targets for the day on the basis of priority and make a to-do list but here I want to mention one thing,only 2 or 3 main & special tasks should be included besides the routine otherwise we will not able to finish our targets in the same day and the to-do list will convert into the pending work list.

4. Fix the time for social media like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram etc.

It is true and nobody can be denied the fact, intentionally or unintentionally we spend hours and hours on social media only scrolling and going through the other’s profile. If you are doing some work using social media platforms then also you have to set your hours. This will save you lots of time which you can use to finish your pending works.

5. Be smart in choosing and picking task

Select the most productive time for yourself when you feel the most energetic and productive. Save the time by doing the things which will take only 5 minutes to do, do it at that time only, don’t delay for tomorrow until and unless you are sick or any medical issue you have.

6. Identify the unnecessary & unwanted things-

Identify the unnecessary & unwanted things which are taking lots of time and spoil our planning. Eliminate that immediately. Here I am talking about gossiping. We waste our lots of valuable time only talking about other’s minus points.

7. Appreciate yourself-

If you follow all the things and getting success to execute them then pat on your back yourself. Accomplishing small goals give also lots of confidence and satisfaction so keep doing this.

In this way, time management plays a keen role to organise our life. This is all for today, will come back with some topic in the next one, take care and be productive.

Life is too short:Really?

Life is too short to live and experience the wonderful things!!!…

Do you think so? What do you think about life?

Tell me your point of view in the comment section.

I think, it is. We never know what will happen in the next moment.

Life is so unpredictable and full of adventures, drama, comedy & actions and actually, we can say this is the real charm of life.

If these things are not taken place then no thrill, no excitement, no zeal, no challenges come in the life and we don’t value the things which we already have. These situations teach us how to accept unwanted things.

I think whatever we do in our lives, the ultimate goal is peace, happiness and satisfaction. The medium can be different for different people but I think Moto is quite clear because all the materialistic things can give comfort and luxury only but that is also a fact that these all are a very important part of our life, one can’t be denied that fact.

Here is the question is when we have all the luxurious items and comfort then also we are not happy and satisfied because that thing can’t give inner peace, happiness and satisfaction.

So what can we do, we can take some small steps for all the things which we want to do for ourselves and for others too.

Don’t give up at any stage of life, if one formula is not working, try for another and the other one is also not working should go for something else, never stop trying and finding that special one which is “only made for you“.

Everyone is special in some other way.

Give respect and do the value of the life which we get as a human being, different from other creatures.

Live your dreams and be a good human being first, rest all the things will come automatically side by side with the dedicated efforts.

Thankfulness & gratitude are the gestures that have the power to make someone else happy so don’t let it go, be happy and spread the happiness.

At the end of life, only two things will matter (a)what we gave to others (b) and reciprocal what we received.

Failure::An Experience

Failure is the result when we don’t reach the goal which we either decide for ourselves or decided by someone else where we have to give results on the basis of the performance.

We should take failure as an experience. If we will never fail then we will never learn that chapter of the life.

How can failure be the game changer and help to trigger to choose the right direction::

1. First of all, we have to set our mind that nobody is perfect here. 100 Percent Perfection is totally an imagination.

2. When somebody starts a work, they start with the learning point of view & If they are learning they will do mistakes and that mistakes help them to make a strong base in that particular field and will help them further in some other way so don’t much bother about that failure which we get in the process of learning because efforts never go in vain.

3. I think this is the basic difference between the successful person and the struggler. Successful people don’t get so emotional on their defeat. They channelise the energy and efforts again in the right direction.

4. They never lose hope, try and try again and get the success in the end. Learn from the mistakes and ensure that those mistakes don’t repeat in future again.

5. If we are not getting success with the same formula then try to find a new point of view with some twist. We have to find out the new ideas and the new opportunities to establish that thought process and focus on the disciplined planning and right execution steps.

6.”Experience is the best teacher“, we have to understand the truth that we are taking the real experience through failure which will be the first step of success in future. There is no any example about that person who never went wrong and achieved all the goals.

7. Watch all the success stories and go through with them then you come to know, how many times they faced failure, criticism and rejections but never gave up and the most common things about them they came again with a solid plan and double energy and this is true if we are enough mentally strong then nobody can ever dare the change our determination.

8. Don’t bother about the people, they will talk, they will criticise, let them talk. Avoid all the negativity and never stop to work on that tiny steps which must be the biggest one in the future.

9.With the support of the family and true friends, we can achieve the difficult targets too and don’t worry if nobody is there with you, be strong enough to handle it with your own. Don’t step back because, in the end, one should fight his own battle without any support.

So with this note, I am ending here. Lots of best wishes to all of them who are busy changing their efforts to succeed.All the very best to all of you.

Happiness:A choice

Happiness is an emotional state or feeling of satisfaction. When we feel satisfied with the certain things that are going in the right direction and are getting the expected results. We feel happy about it.

I think happiness is a choice where we can try to be happy. It doesn’t mean that everything is perfect but we can decide to accept all the imperfections and look beyond it.

For being happy we can follow these following things:::

  1. Avoid negativity and negative people.
  2. Don’t compare your life with others.
  3. Accept the past, live in the present and don’t feel worried about the future.
  4. Give credit to yourselves and don’t expect so much from others. Pamper yourselves too.
  5. Enjoy and celebrate every small moment of our life.
  6. Don’t take shortcuts to accomplish the goals because the end result will be definitely not in your favour.
  7. Find reasons to be happy in stressful situations too.
  8. Be mentally and physically fit then only we can be emotionally fit.
  9. Try to think positive because positivity definitely gives us hope to think above all the negatives.
  10. Talk with our loved ones and be connected with family and good friends.
  11. Take a short break from routine and spend some time with nature, go for an outing.
  12. Follow your senses and go with them. Give some time to your hobby & passion. This will also give you inner satisfaction.

Anger :Right Or Wrong?

How can we define the term Anger-

Anger is the outburst of all those emotional feelings where either we or someone else take the by default right to prove anything correct from their point of view and make others culprits.

Ultimately this is the war between the thoughts and the actions.

Reasons:

Reasons are so obvious…..

I think everyone experienced anger at some point in their life.

(A)When we feel, somebody wants to disturb our personal space and comfort & life.

(B)When someone questions about our personality, individuality & identity.

(C)When someone is not ready to listen to our point of view, disrespect that and treat us badly.

Including all of these, In short, I feel Ego, Over Expectation, Fear and Frustration all the main causes of anger.

1.EGO::

I think the main reason for the anger is Ego. Ego doesn’t allow us even listen to another perspective and accept it.

If we know that now we can’t prove our point logically then we will take the support of anger definitely because we all have that kind of mindset that if someone is showing anger especially the elder one towards the younger ones or anyone else, they might be thinking another person surely did something wrong.

2. OVER EXPECTATION::

When we over expect from others and especially with our loved ones, we disappoint at certain times because every time, everything will not execute in a very particular way as we want.

We have to respect the other’s opinion too but we don’t think about it when we are in the arguments & fights and when the anger comes.

3.FEAR::

Whenever we are not confident about the things which we think that is in our control, not reacted like that, we feel helpless and we get scared and in that state of mind we react unnecessarily on each and every baseless point and in the last, this fear comes in the form of anger.

4.FRUSTRATION::

Whenever the things do not go as we want or wish or plan, we get irritated, frustrated with the situations and the people associated with that and sometimes it outbursts on those people also who are totally innocent and do not even involve in all of this.

How can we overcome this problem:

1. Self-introspection will definitely reduce the chances of anger:

I think anger is the choice initially but later it includes in our habits and nature, if it is the repetitive gesture, comes at every small and big situation then we should seriously think about the problem and the solution is just to sit and ask some questions to ourselves then calculate and evaluate all the results of those fights and arguments due to the anger and think twice about that Was my reaction necessary at that time, should I avoid that?

I am sure we will definitely get the answer because most of the things are taken place in that heat of the moment which we actually not mean that not even remember after that.

2. Meditation, self-management is the other points on which we have to work to get rid of that habit:

Meditation gives us the power to self strengthen because it’s root comes from childhood so the responsibility is ours.

All the parents should make sure that gesture shouldn’t convert into the habit. Otherwise, later on, things can go out of control too.

3.Self-control and Patience::

It is not necessary if one person is showing anger then others also do follow the same but this is not easy to ignore.

If you have mentally strong about the emotions then only you patiently handle the situation because if one person is only dealing with the anger, again and again, there is a possibility it will come in the worst form.

Here you have to decide in between two who is the more patient and understanding and want to try to sort the things more efficiently.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/01/30/patience-slow-and-steady-wins-the-race-what-do-you-say/

In the end, I only want to say it affects our mental and physical health so try to sort out things without getting hyper. This will also give a choice to other people to do the same.

Now ending this blog with the question” Is anger justified?”

I will catch you in my next one. Take care.

Hard work With Brain

Some people believe in destiny & some other belief to make their destiny by their own with their hard work & focused dedication but why sometimes they don’t get the expected results after doing the hard work.

I agree, there is no substitute for hard work & dedication but we can improve the chances of the success with smart work(here I mean hard work with a brain).

How smartly we can manage all the Choices and make a plan is more important. Planning & Prioritization of the work can increase the possibilities of results that we are expecting.

There is a possibility, we have to face failure after doing hard work too but that is not mean that we should lose the focus on that particular work and should stop doing that.

In that condition we have to find out where the things are going wrong, find the reasons and correct it and implement with the same passion, that is called the smart work.

Planning, Prioritization, check the loopholes & then Implementation will be the key to any successful task .

Learning, making mistakes, working on those mistakes, restructure it and implement with new twists all are the basics points of the smart work.

This is my way of thinking on smart work, others can think it in some other way & it might work for them too.

So in my opinion, smart work pays more than hard work. Without knowing all the aspects of the work and don’t keep a backup plan if the things don’t go according to the planning are not as fruitful as we expecting.

Accept the mistake immediately & start the work on plan ‘B’ without wasting a single minute will you make the stand in the line of achievers.

Forgiveness

Meaning of Forgiveness-

Forgiveness is the gesture of letting go of those emotions or feelings which we hold willingly or unwillingly.

Sometimes we don’t want to come out of that zone which we self-created in our mind and blame others that they are doing repetitively.

Lets talk about the possibilities!

Suppose!!

If someone did very wrong with you, then two possibilities are there-

(a) Intentionally: That person wants to do so willingly.

(b) Unintentionally: His intention was not wrong although he did it by mistake.

If we know the reason then it will easy to consider his situation and forgive him.

Unintentionally-

If the person hurt you unintentionally then there is no

reason to hold that grudge for a long time and give torture to yourself because that person will never feel that emotion which you made in your mind.

So the point is trying to come out from that feeling & zone and understand both the situations because in that condition only your energy is depleting by thinking again & again and by making the web of negative thoughts.

Solution-

Now the solution is if we know he did unintentionally then forgive immediately and start with the new slate.

Intetionally-

In the other situation, when you knoe about that he is doing intentionally, Moto is crystal clear he wants to disturb you and wants to divert your focus from your aim & work.

Then it should be more easier than earlier because we know his moto so it’s easy to ignore all those words & actions.

After sometimes when they will realise that those things are not affecting you anymore, they will automatically drop the idea of bullying you.

And in the last, If the mistake is yours then don’t feel any shame to accept your mistake and say sorry.

If the person doesn’t accept the sorry at that time then you don’t need to feel offended because the mistake is your and the other person felt insulted and hurt then try some other way to convince him but don’t stop communicating with that person.

So, In the end, I only want to say, Forgive Others and Spread Happiness.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2018/11/21/happinessa-choice/

I will catch you in the next one, till then, take care and be happy.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Spirituality Or Practicality

Is it wrong to follow the Spirituality and Keep aside the practical wisdom for some reasons?

I don’t think so. I know these are the choices & one is completely free to pick their choices.

Here I am talking about spirituality in the “Karmas“.

Before taking any steps, one should always keep in the mind about the end results of that.

Spirituality always pay you back and the same thing applies to the other gestures, that’s how life goes & works.

Whatever you give to your life, life reverts back so you have to decide your path accordingly.

I know, It’s sound very different but I think it’s ok to think in that way too, then only we will come to know and understand about this.

The medium we choose to complete our goals, it’s should be like that what we expect from others.

Things are judged only when they affect us Otherwise everything is practical and seems perfectly right.

For the sake of money, position, and ambition, we are compromising with the values and ignoring our inner voice.

Maximum time our consciousness warn us that what medium we are choosing is wrong but we ignore that.

To be practical is ok but don’t compromise with the moralities and the qualities which already we have as a human being but nowadays we don’t use them often and the people who choose that path and want to follow that, are called fake.

The decision is only yours because life is yours. Choose the path wisely.

Don’t loose the hope

Every time it is not possible, things flow in the same direction where we want.

Don’t lose the hope and give the equal challenge to life and prove that I can handle it.

I am strong enough to bear all that situations that I would never want in my life………

Keep it in the mind that the tough time is for giving something better to us.

Collect all the courage and just fight back. Definitely, the results will shock you.

Happy Children’s Day

Every child is an artist, the problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up—Pablo Picasso

As a parent, we always try to teach them but there are so many things we can learn from them, some are-

  1. To be happy always, the reason is not required.
  2. To be busy always with something they like to do.
  3. How to love without a condition or expectation.
  4. And the best one they know very well how to demand the things which they want.

They are just like the flowers, let them blossom & try to sacrifice our today so that our children can have the better tomorrow.