Life is too short:Really?

Life is too short to live and experience the wonderful things!!!…

Do you think so? What do you think about life?

Tell me your point of view in the comment section.

I think, it is. We never know what will happen in the next moment.

Life is so unpredictable and full of adventures, drama, comedy & actions and actually, we can say this is the real charm of life.

If these things are not taken place then no thrill, no excitement, no zeal, no challenges come in the life and we don’t value the things which we already have. These situations teach us how to accept unwanted things.

I think whatever we do in our lives, the ultimate goal is peace, happiness and satisfaction. The medium can be different for different people but I think Moto is quite clear because all the materialistic things can give comfort and luxury only but that is also a fact that these all are a very important part of our life, one can’t be denied that fact.

Here is the question is when we have all the luxurious items and comfort then also we are not happy and satisfied because that thing can’t give inner peace, happiness and satisfaction.

So what can we do, we can take some small steps for all the things which we want to do for ourselves and for others too.

Don’t give up at any stage of life, if one formula is not working, try for another and the other one is also not working should go for something else, never stop trying and finding that special one which is “only made for you“.

Everyone is special in some other way.

Give respect and do the value of the life which we get as a human being, different from other creatures.

Live your dreams and be a good human being first, rest all the things will come automatically side by side with the dedicated efforts.

Thankfulness & gratitude are the gestures that have the power to make someone else happy so don’t let it go, be happy and spread the happiness.

At the end of life, only two things will matter (a)what we gave to others (b) and reciprocal what we received.

Failure::An Experience

Failure is the result when we don’t reach the goal which we either decide for ourselves or decided by someone else where we have to give results on the basis of the performance.

We should take failure as an experience. If we will never fail then we will never learn that chapter of the life.

How can failure be the game changer and help to trigger to choose the right direction::

1. First of all, we have to set our mind that nobody is perfect here. 100 Percent Perfection is totally an imagination.

2. When somebody starts a work, they start with the learning point of view & If they are learning they will do mistakes and that mistakes help them to make a strong base in that particular field and will help them further in some other way so don’t much bother about that failure which we get in the process of learning because efforts never go in vain.

3. I think this is the basic difference between the successful person and the struggler. Successful people don’t get so emotional on their defeat. They channelise the energy and efforts again in the right direction.

4. They never lose hope, try and try again and get the success in the end. Learn from the mistakes and ensure that those mistakes don’t repeat in future again.

5. If we are not getting success with the same formula then try to find a new point of view with some twist. We have to find out the new ideas and the new opportunities to establish that thought process and focus on the disciplined planning and right execution steps.

6.”Experience is the best teacher“, we have to understand the truth that we are taking the real experience through failure which will be the first step of success in future. There is no any example about that person who never went wrong and achieved all the goals.

7. Watch all the success stories and go through with them then you come to know, how many times they faced failure, criticism and rejections but never gave up and the most common things about them they came again with a solid plan and double energy and this is true if we are enough mentally strong then nobody can ever dare the change our determination.

8. Don’t bother about the people, they will talk, they will criticise, let them talk. Avoid all the negativity and never stop to work on that tiny steps which must be the biggest one in the future.

9.With the support of the family and true friends, we can achieve the difficult targets too and don’t worry if nobody is there with you, be strong enough to handle it with your own. Don’t step back because, in the end, one should fight his own battle without any support.

So with this note, I am ending here. Lots of best wishes to all of them who are busy changing their efforts to succeed.All the very best to all of you.

Happiness:A choice

Happiness is an emotional state or feeling of satisfaction. When we feel satisfied with the certain things that are going in the right direction and are getting the expected results. We feel happy about it.

I think happiness is a choice where we can try to be happy. It doesn’t mean that everything is perfect but we can decide to accept all the imperfections and look beyond it.

For being happy we can follow these following things:::

1. Avoid negativity and negative people.
2. Don’t compare your life with others.
3. Accept the past, live in the present and don’t feel worried about the future.
4. Give credit to yourselves and don’t expect so much from others. Pamper yourselves too.
5. Enjoy and celebrate every small moment of our life.
6. Don’t take shortcuts to accomplish the goals because the end result will be definitely not in your favour.
7. Find reasons to be happy in stressful situations too.
8. Be mentally and physically fit then only we can be emotionally fit.
9. Try to think positive because positivity definitely gives us hope to think above all the negatives.
10. Talk with our loved ones and be connected with family and good friends.
11. Take a short break from routine and spend some time with nature, go for an outing.
12. Follow your senses and go with them. Give some time to your hobby & passion. This will also give you inner satisfaction.

Anger :Right Or Wrong?

How can we define the term Anger-

Anger is the outburst of all those emotional feelings where either we or someone else take the by default right to prove anything correct from their point of view and make others culprits.

Ultimately this is the war between the thoughts and the actions.

Reasons:

Reasons are so obvious…..

I think everyone experienced anger at some point in their life.

(A)When we feel, somebody wants to disturb our personal space and comfort & life.

(B)When someone questions about our personality, individuality & identity.

(C)When someone is not ready to listen to our point of view, disrespect that and treat us badly.

Including all of these, In short, I feel Ego, Over Expectation, Fear and Frustration all the main causes of anger.

1.EGO::

I think the main reason for the anger is Ego. Ego doesn’t allow us even listen to another perspective and accept it.

If we know that now we can’t prove our point logically then we will take the support of anger definitely because we all have that kind of mindset that if someone is showing anger especially the elder one towards the younger ones or anyone else, they might be thinking another person surely did something wrong.

2. OVER EXPECTATION::

When we over expect from others and especially with our loved ones, we disappoint at certain times because every time, everything will not execute in a very particular way as we want.

We have to respect the other’s opinion too but we don’t think about it when we are in the arguments & fights and when the anger comes.

3.FEAR::

Whenever we are not confident about the things which we think that is in our control, not reacted like that, we feel helpless and we get scared and in that state of mind we react unnecessarily on each and every baseless point and in the last, this fear comes in the form of anger.

4.FRUSTRATION::

Whenever the things do not go as we want or wish or plan, we get irritated, frustrated with the situations and the people associated with that and sometimes it outbursts on those people also who are totally innocent and do not even involve in all of this.

How can we overcome this problem:

1. Self-introspection will definitely reduce the chances of anger:

I think anger is the choice initially but later it includes in our habits and nature, if it is the repetitive gesture, comes at every small and big situation then we should seriously think about the problem and the solution is just to sit and ask some questions to ourselves then calculate and evaluate all the results of those fights and arguments due to the anger and think twice about that Was my reaction necessary at that time, should I avoid that?

I am sure we will definitely get the answer because most of the things are taken place in that heat of the moment which we actually not mean that not even remember after that.

2. Meditation, self-management is the other points on which we have to work to get rid of that habit:

Meditation gives us the power to self strengthen because it’s root comes from childhood so the responsibility is ours.

All the parents should make sure that gesture shouldn’t convert into the habit. Otherwise, later on, things can go out of control too.

3.Self-control and Patience::

It is not necessary if one person is showing anger then others also do follow the same but this is not easy to ignore.

If you have mentally strong about the emotions then only you patiently handle the situation because if one person is only dealing with the anger, again and again, there is a possibility it will come in the worst form.

Here you have to decide in between two who is the more patient and understanding and want to try to sort the things more efficiently.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/01/30/patience-slow-and-steady-wins-the-race-what-do-you-say/

In the end, I only want to say it affects our mental and physical health so try to sort out things without getting hyper. This will also give a choice to other people to do the same.

Now ending this blog with the question” Is anger justified?”

I will catch you in my next one. Take care.

Hard work With Brain

Some people believe in destiny & some other belief to make their destiny by their own with their hard work & focused dedication but why sometimes they don’t get the expected results after doing the hard work.

I agree, there is no substitute for hard work & dedication but we can improve the chances of the success with smart work(here I mean hard work with a brain).

How smartly we can manage all the Choices and make a plan is more important. Planning & Prioritization of the work can increase the possibilities of results that we are expecting.

There is a possibility, we have to face failure after doing hard work too but that is not mean that we should lose the focus on that particular work and should stop doing that.

In that condition we have to find out where the things are going wrong, find the reasons and correct it and implement with the same passion, that is called the smart work.

Planning, Prioritization, check the loopholes & then Implementation will be the key to any successful task .

Learning, making mistakes, working on those mistakes, restructure it and implement with new twists all are the basics points of the smart work.

This is my way of thinking on smart work, others can think it in some other way & it might work for them too.

So in my opinion, smart work pays more than hard work. Without knowing all the aspects of the work and don’t keep a backup plan if the things don’t go according to the planning are not as fruitful as we expecting.

Accept the mistake immediately & start the work on plan ‘B’ without wasting a single minute will you make the stand in the line of achievers.

Forgiveness

Meaning of Forgiveness-

Forgiveness is the gesture of letting go of those emotions or feelings which we hold willingly or unwillingly.

Sometimes we don’t want to come out of that zone which we self-created in our mind and blame others that they are doing repetitively.

Lets talk about the possibilities!

Suppose!!

If someone did very wrong with you, then two possibilities are there-

(a) Intentionally: That person wants to do so willingly.

(b) Unintentionally: His intention was not wrong although he did it by mistake.

If we know the reason then it will easy to consider his situation and forgive him.

Unintentionally-

If the person hurt you unintentionally then there is no

reason to hold that grudge for a long time and give torture to yourself because that person will never feel that emotion which you made in your mind.

So the point is trying to come out from that feeling & zone and understand both the situations because in that condition only your energy is depleting by thinking again & again and by making the web of negative thoughts.

Solution-

Now the solution is if we know he did unintentionally then forgive immediately and start with the new slate.

Intetionally-

In the other situation, when you knoe about that he is doing intentionally, Moto is crystal clear he wants to disturb you and wants to divert your focus from your aim & work.

Then it should be more easier than earlier because we know his moto so it’s easy to ignore all those words & actions.

After sometimes when they will realise that those things are not affecting you anymore, they will automatically drop the idea of bullying you.

And in the last, If the mistake is yours then don’t feel any shame to accept your mistake and say sorry.

If the person doesn’t accept the sorry at that time then you don’t need to feel offended because the mistake is your and the other person felt insulted and hurt then try some other way to convince him but don’t stop communicating with that person.

So, In the end, I only want to say, Forgive Others and Spread Happiness.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2018/11/21/happinessa-choice/

I will catch you in the next one, till then, take care and be happy.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Spirituality Or Practicality

Is it wrong to follow the Spirituality and Keep aside the practical wisdom for some reasons?

I don’t think so. I know these are the choices & one is completely free to pick their choices.

Here I am talking about spirituality in the “Karmas“.

Before taking any steps, one should always keep in the mind about the end results of that.

Spirituality always pay you back and the same thing applies to the other gestures, that’s how life goes & works.

Whatever you give to your life, life reverts back so you have to decide your path accordingly.

I know, It’s sound very different but I think it’s ok to think in that way too, then only we will come to know and understand about this.

The medium we choose to complete our goals, it’s should be like that what we expect from others.

Things are judged only when they affect us Otherwise everything is practical and seems perfectly right.

For the sake of money, position, and ambition, we are compromising with the values and ignoring our inner voice.

Maximum time our consciousness warn us that what medium we are choosing is wrong but we ignore that.

To be practical is ok but don’t compromise with the moralities and the qualities which already we have as a human being but nowadays we don’t use them often and the people who choose that path and want to follow that, are called fake.

The decision is only yours because life is yours. Choose the path wisely.

Don’t loose the hope

Every time it is not possible, things flow in the same direction where we want.

Don’t lose the hope and give the equal challenge to life and prove that I can handle it.

I am strong enough to bear all that situations that I would never want in my life………

Keep it in the mind that the tough time is for giving something better to us.

Collect all the courage and just fight back. Definitely, the results will shock you.

Happy Children’s Day

Every child is an artist, the problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up—Pablo Picasso

As a parent, we always try to teach them but there are so many things we can learn from them, some are-

1. To be happy always, the reason is not required.
2. To be busy always with something they like to do.
3. How to love without a condition or expectation.
4. And the best one they know very well how to demand the things which they want.

They are just like the flowers, let them blossom & try to sacrifice our today so that our children can have the better tomorrow.

Responsibilities and Priorities: How to make a balance?

Hello friends…..!!!!

I am back with a new post, I know it has been a very long time, sorry for that but lots of new things were taking place in my life so busy with dealing all of those. Now talk about today’s topic.

Today’s topic is responsibilities & priorities: how to make a balance?

This is true, life will give us challenges & we have to decide our priorities.

If we get success to prioritize our responsibilities according to the current scenario, nothing can be better than this.

We always talk about the responsibilities but sometimes forget to prioritize & here I think we do a mistake, not to understand what current scenario demands.

This is absolutely true that we have to change our priorities according to the need & the situation.

Everybody’s life is slightly or totally different from others because their goals, their desires, their expectations, their experiences, their situations are totally different from others and this is the real beauty of the life.

Everybody is dealing with different types of situations but the goal is ultimate, all want good health, wealth, peace, happiness & satisfaction from their lives.

Now the question is if we all know the real fact about life then from where the problems start and create a mess in certain areas of our lives.

Here we discuss a few points about how can we enhance productivity & change the end results which cause kiosk.

Here I will share only my point of view towards my life and it will be totally unfair to judge other’s life because they are facing totally different situations.

Firstly I talk about the responsibilities, here In India either we live in a nuclear family or joint family.

If we live in the joint family then the responsibilities divide & distribute according to the family member’s availability & capacity.

That is a totally different issue “Are they get success to do justice with their duties or not”?

Joke apart!!!!!!

Let’s continue…

If we are in a nuclear family, then the scenario will be totally different. In that situation, one should really understand the real requirement or need of the moment.

Here, I will talk about only nuclear families with small kids who are totally dependent on their parents to fulfil all their requirements.

As we all know at a certain time only parents are the one who takes the responsibilities of all the household chores & the earning source.

Here either husband or wife has to give their maximum time to earn the bread for the family & the left one need to understand his or her responsibilities towards the family.

Here they can’t help themselves because options are so limited that’s why one should talk to another member of the family who is taking responsibility for fulfilling the rest of the things.

Some points are dedicated to whom who live in a nuclear family–

(a) PUMPING & BOOSTING YOURSELF:

Steal some good quality time for yourself that will refresh you and will give you the strength to deal with all the challenging & awkward situations. If you are happy then only you can try to keep other’s happy.

(b)PROPER COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER ACCORDING TO YOUR ROLE:

There is no chance for any confusion regarding your duties & responsibilities which you are going to serve for your family volunteered.

Because miscommunication & confusion only make kiosk so sit with your partner and discuss all the points in detail & then make a final decision of about your role.

As I said earlier options are so limited that’s why this is expected from one person that he or she should take a lead for maximum roles when the kids need them the most.

The decision is totally dependent on the specific situation if one is earning for the family so for sure it is obvious that the second one automatically will serve the other chores.

Remember all responsibilities are equally important & you both are the sharing the same platform. Ego shouldn’t come in this.

(c)KIDS SHOULD BE THE FIRST PRIORITY:

As they are not in the condition to take care of themselves so that is our responsibility to give them love, support & the most important to give lots of time to them

Because this is the time when the kids are making their base, learning new things so one should always be there to listen to their confusions, their thoughts and talks. This will really help them to make their personality.

I know this is not an easy task to take a step back from your ambitions but here you have to choose in between the family or career, one thing will affect for sure so mentally prepare for that.

Then what is the solution?

Here we can do one thing, set our routine according to them. Try to avoid some other things just like rooms are messy and kids want to play with you, give your time to the kids first, we can clean it after some time here you need to decide your priorities first.

(d)LOVE YOUR WORK WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF ALL THE TIME, EXPECT LESS:

Moments will come when you will feel low, demotivated, helpless & lonely but don’t let overpower these things on you, this phase will also pass, nothing is permanent in this world.

Be optimistic, try to find some positivity in each unfavourable condition.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2018/11/15/dont-loose-the-hope/

Help and stand for yourself, Love yourself and your family they will definitely love you back.

From this note, I am ending my blog. I hope this blog will help you to understand your situation better. I will catch you all in my next one. Take care.

Be happy & spread happiness.