ज़माना क्या माँपेगा….

ज़माना क्या माँपेगा…. उस पंछी की परवाज़ को,

उसके आगाज़ को और उसके अंजाम के अंदाज़ को….

जिसने कतरे हो खुद पंख उसके,और नाम दिया हो उसे उसकी बेहतरी के इंसाफ़ का…

उस हिज़ाब का, उस लिबाज़ का

जहाँ उसके क़दम उसकी ही बंदिशों में रुकने लगते है,

और दायरे औरों की मर्ज़ी के तकलुफ्फ़ में सिमटने लगते है।

तब वो खुद खुद को रोशन करने की ठान लेता है,

चाहत को अपनी तलवार बना जंग फान देता है।

जानता है ये जंग अपनी सोच से नहीं औरों की हैरानियों से है,

उनके विस्मय को बढ़ाती हुई उन पेशानियों से है।

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https://anchor.fm/deepika-mishra/episodes/Episode-11-Kyun-Shir-Jhukaye-khada-hai-tu-ehan36

बहानें

ना करने के बहानें ढूंढों तो एक नहीं हज़ार मिल जाएगें।

और अगर करने जाओ तो छोटे छोटे तिनके भी रोड़े अटकायेगे।

तो क्या करे, हार मानकर बैठ जाए?

या झकझोरे अपने विश्वास को और सब भुलाकर आगे बढ़ते जाये।

रोज गिरे, रोज उठे पर मरने ना दें अपने एहसास को।

कर सकते है और हो भी जायेगा बस छोड़े अपने डर और डर से पैदा होने वाले हर अविश्वास को।

फिर यही रास्ता अपनी मंज़िल की राह खुद दिखलाएगा।

और आत्मविश्वास का सूरज हर अँधेरे को चीरता हुआ अपनी ही रोशनी से जगमगाएगा।

My favourite lines!!

Hello Everyone!

Today I am sharing some of my favourites lines written by me.

Don’t look for the fixed patterns, Create Your Own, Maybe you find the best one ever.#deepikawrites

I know, I am not good enough in languages. Words are only the medium. My heart speaks. #deepikawrites

Don’t lose hope ever. Believe in yourself. Definitely, you will get the success to find your own path. #deepikawrites

Some are talented by birth, Some work hard to make their hobby as their talent. Some discover that unique quality first which embedded in them and try to be a master of that. You say, In which category do you find yourself?#deepikawrites

Patience: Slow and steady wins the race. What do you say?

Hello all!!!

This month is full of challenges for me, I was not well and after two or three days of my recovery, my son got ill. Daughter’s school exam then PTM, my pending work schedule, hubby’s office audit work, back to back things were lined up, mother in law’s eye check up & health issues then my daughter fell sick, no chance to sit quietly and think and write my views.

Anyways, This is the life, full of adventures and challenges at the same time. You say, what is going on in your life?

Today I want to share which I experienced in the past couple of days, the power of patience.

Patience is the ability to accept things which are not performing according to you.

Think of the difference between the patient and calm person and the impatient person.

Patient person calmly thinks all over the issues then decide what is the best to do in the particular situation, on the other hand, an impatient person simply reacts first without thinking on what the situation is demanding. Sometimes, he has to pay for this also.

Each and everything takes their own time to flourish. Hurry and rush sometimes spoil the things. Let the things allow to take their own time to grow.

How patience plays their role in our life-

1. Anything you start, like a carrier or a business or anything new, have patience. You can’t get the best results in one night, this is not a magic that you wish for something and that appears. You have to work hard with dedication in the right direction and wait for the results, how things are going?

2. Patience in Relationships-As I said earlier, everything takes its own time to grow and flourish, the same thing applies here also, firstly you have to understand the person then try to make your bond stronger, then also things are not working then go for other options. Give up in the starting without understanding the things is not a wise decision.

3. Patience’s role in the family-Every family is beautiful and has some scope the enhance the beauty of this with small efforts. Listen to every family members views and wishes patiently and then make a consensus is the sign of a healthy family. Only one is making decisions and others are only following is not good for the long run.

What is your take on this? Please share your views in the comment section.

I will catch you all in the next one, till then take care, be happy and the most important be healthy.

Generation Gap: How to balance between one generation to another?

Hi!

Welcome back!!!

I am back with a new post named Generation Gap.

Nowadays I am quite busy with my daughter’s school exams, mother in law’s health issues and some other miscellaneous works. That’s the reason I didn’t get the chance to publish any post.

It happens sometimes. According to the priority, some other things take back seat. Anyway, Let’s come to today’s topic, “Generation gap”

What is your definition of the Generation Gap?

I think the difference of opinions, beliefs, values and practices between one generation and another generation is called the generation gap.

The gap of two or three decades between the two generations changes the thought process and practices of the younger ones.

It is true and we have to accept that Change is a continuous and gradual process. We should keep in the mind that differences will come on the basis of the thought process.

Today generation’s main focus on life style’s comfort and ease and secure their future first. On the other hand, another generation (old ones) is more focused on values and rituals. That creates conflict sometimes.

This is my observation and opinion, your thinking might be different.

Though three generations work simultaneously Self, Parents and Grandparents so it is obvious all the three generations will have their opinion, thinking and points to prove their logic.

Then what to do? How can we make a balance?

We need to understand certain points, to understand the whole process.

The points are-

1. Try to bridge the gap by listening, accepting and respecting the views and differences.

2. Try to maintain a better understanding by taking an effort to understand their point of view too.

3. Always keep in the mind that relationships are more valuable than differences. It takes lots of time, efforts and sacrifices to make a relationship stronger and on the other hand, it’s very easy to break within a second for various reasons.

4. Try to think about both the perspective, what will we think and how to react at the age of them. We will definitely get the answer.

5. At least try to fulfil their basic demands what they expected from you, your time, love, care and concern, whenever it is possible, show your concern for them.

6. Parents and grandparents should also try to understand the younger generation’s desires, passion, ambition towards their life.

7. Try to give an individual space to everyone. This is the main beauty of every relationship.

8. Don’t force anybody to live their lives in a certain way. Everybody has certain desires and goals for their life, let them free to live and where they need guidance, don’t hesitate to ask them.

9. Balance and adjustment is the key to solve all the misunderstandings. Some efforts from your side and some efforts from their side will help to make the life’s progressive, peaceful and happening.

These points are applicable to both generations. Sometimes first give and then get the formula works the best.

This is my way of thinking regarding this, what do you think and what is your point of view, please share with me through your comments.

Communication, discussion and then the conclusion is the best way to solve any problems. Be part of making the world happier.

Take care. Be happy and be productive.

Catch you all in the next one.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Happy New Year 2019

New Year!! New Beginning!!

Wishing you all a very happy, prosperous and healthy new year!!

Thanks a lot for all your support! I am looking forward to a great 2019 and wish the same for all of you.

At the beginning of the year, I have a couple of lists of the work which I have to accomplish in the starting of the month. I have scheduled those all and started working on them.

I hope you are doing the same, lots of planning for this month and trying to complete the pending ones.

Again a lot of best wishes for all of you! Have a lovely year ahead! May God cherish you all with lots of love, happiness, strength and health!!

Lots of love, blessings and regards from my side!!

Success: What is your definition?

!!!Success is not about only winning or losing!!!

Success: What is your definition?

In simple words, to achieve the goal which you planned for yourself which makes you feel happy and satisfief is called Success.

We can say it like this also, to accept the failure and come out from it gracefully and again make the mind to work and perform that leftover task, is the real form of success.

Everybody is chasing success desperately and they want this in their life anyhow but what are their criteria to measure success. Is this money, power, position, inner satisfaction or something else?

Everybody might be a different definition of their success.

I personally believe the growth of an individual from starting to till the end or at present where he is standing should be counted as his success.

Here growth of individual covers all the aspects of his life like social, personal, professional and spiritual as well. As the interest of an individual, he can choose his area of work where he wants to get success.

I believe, most of the people set their definition of success according to someone’s professional life only, how they are doing professionally.

Here I think slightly different, In my opinion, balance is very important in every aspect of life otherwise you will get success for a temporary period of time. You can’t pursue in the long run.

Think and tell who is more successful according to you. One who is doing excellent in his profession and the rest of the areas are terribly suffered or one who is good enough in his profession and also makes a good balance in other aspects of his life?

Who will be your choice?

According to me, In the end, the thing matter for me is how many other people are suffering from my decision in this race of success?

You want to win the race alone or want to give your shoulder as help to others. The choice is yours.

One more phenomenon is very common that one who is earning for the family is very successful and on the other hand who is doing 24 hours job without getting any penny is a big zero.

Do you agree?

I am not. Here we need to understand that the person contributes at home, knows his or her responsibilities very well and he or she wants a good balance in life that’s why he or she willingly chooses this for himself or herself. Please don’t give any tags to anyone regarding this.

Everybody is playing its individual role and getting his growth gradually so everybody should respect for this.

Success is not all about what other people are thinking about you. How you feel about your individual growth according to your capacities and capabilities is also counted as your success.

Everybody lives his life but what matters is that how he is living in actually?

Nobody should force to live his life in a certain way. As a human being one should at least get the right how he wants to live his life, it should be only his choice.

If somebody is happy with his messy things, let it be. Don’t judge on the basis of his weakness. It’s ok not to be successful according to other’s balance sheet. If you tried and do not ready to give up on your situations and satisfied with all your efforts and the results, you are also a winner in your own space.

Celebrate this and discover more chances for you. Continue with the process of growth you will surely get your goal.

Feel like a winner, think like a winner, you will get your power booster automatically, don’t put you in any pressure all the time.

Merry Christmas!!: My Christmas Story

Hello all…..Merry Christmas!!!! May this Christmas brings an abundance of joy & happiness, health, wealth and success and peace in everyone’s life.

As this festival of “giving”, we can also try to give some wonderful moments to others.

I am not a Christian then how I connect with Christmas. Today I will share my feeling for Christmas and how I relate to this festival.

My birthday is on 24 December and as you all know Christmas comes on 25 December. You will ask then what is the connection between these two dates. I will tell you, I was in a Catholic school so Christmas Celebration was the most memorable part of my school memories.

Our school celebrated Christmas one day before on 24 December and that was my birth date. When I was a kid, this thing fascinated me a lot that my birthday and Jesus Christ’s birthday comes on the same day.

Later I came to know that it was a celebration in school a day before but then only I feel very special on that day because I celebrated my birthday in school and the whole school was in a festive mood.

Today also I remember how we all planned for Christmas celebrations with the help of the teachers. All the memories of Christmas remain fresh in my mind like decorating Christmas tree, attending Church, waiting for the “Santa Claus” to arrive and the most loved part, the recreation of the moment how Jesus Christ born.

Through my school, I got to know about the festival in detail and really I loved every part of it.

I can’t forget that “Christmas Carols” which gave me a totally emotional feeling about the festival. I loved that songs, some of them today also I recite and recall that feeling.

The icing on the cake of the Christmas Celebration besides those songs, distributions of the cakes and Chocolates because I love chocolates and cakes very much.

Here I would like to mention something about my school that those were the best moments of my life which I lived in my school. I learnt a lot of things there but the moral values I learnt from there that helped me a lot to make me a person as I am today.

I feel very proud that I was the part of that school, that school gave me a lot and that’s why I feel a special connection from my school.No matters I couldn’t recreate that moment again but that bond with my school secured a very special place in my heart.

I met some of the best people in my life there and that was my teachers. I share a special bond with my all the teachers as I share with my mother and that was the speciality of my school how they create a bond with the students.

Oh! I totally lost in my school memories. Now I am missing my school. As I am an emotional person it suits me. By the way apart from this, I would like to congratulate “Merry Christmas” again in advance to all of you. I know it’s early to say but I couldn’t wait for this and expressed my feelings.

Enjoy these Christmas decorating days and festive mood of celebration. Take care. I will catch you later in my next one. Be festive!

Criticism: How to take it!

Hello everyone!!

How are you all doing? Hoping all are doing good.

Today I will share my point of view about the topic “Criticism“. Everybody has to face it at some level of their life.

How one should take it or react it, today I will talk about it.

What is the real mean of the criticism?

How it affects life?

What are the positives or negatives?

We need to understand it at a more deeper level.

What is Criticism?

“Criticism is the expression of finding faults & mistakes as well as the good part of the particulars and then judging them on the basis of their acts.”

True Criticism should be based on the above definition but in actuality is it happen exactly the same?

Think about it and share your experiences regarding this.

Here I feel that the so-called people and relatives some friends and families who have the authority or they take it by default to judge someone else.

They should first introspect themselves on the same basis where they are judging others.

If they have the qualities which they are talking about then they can give their opinion and only if required and if they haven’t then they should work on themselves first rather than commenting on other’s plus and minuses.

Two possibilities

1. Positive Approach- Here one has the pure intention to improve other’s mistakes. This is the thoughtful feedback where he analyses the situation and gives the solution to improve accordingly. That is called Positive approach.

2. Negative Approach – This totally depends on the person’s psychology. How he thinks and make a statement about others?

Is he insecure or jealous of others?

If yes then this is 100% sure he will only focus on the negatives because this is how he approaches the things generally?

This is purely a Negative Approach.

Here this is advisable one should focus on the situations more rather than the person.

How to handle it-

1. I know it is very difficult to listen something wrong and unpleasant about us but it is also a fact in our consciousness we exactly know the truth about ourselves.

If we are wrong and we need to change our behaviour and approach then definitely should go for it.

If we know and understand the hidden truth behind it, why they are doing it then ignoring them is the best way because arguments with such type of people are totally wastage of our time.

2. If you can’t ignore them then respond to them in a respectful manner because they want to provoke and make an issue. Their motto is clear, if we also lose our patience by listening to their nonsense shits then they will catch the chance to be innocent and prove us wrong.

Don’t give that chance to them because they use it as their play card.

See, Criticism can be good in a certain way but only we need to understand the psyche of the person.

Don’t get so personal and emotional due to the criticism because you are the one who knows the best and the worst about you.

Doesn’t matter what people are talking about because there are only a few who appreciate the good work, others are only want to do leg-pulling.

Believe in yourselves and keep doing the good work. This is the life. One will always speak something good or bad about someone else so we can’t help in it.

With these words now I am ending this one, will catch you in the next one. Take care.

Morning Hassle:What to do?

Good morning everyone!

Here, In India, I have just finished my morning routine. Suddenly clicked in my mind, how daily we deal with the almost same routine so it is important to make it more effective with some extra efforts.

If we succeed to start our morning routine in a disciplined and the planned way, then the rest of the day will sort automatically.

Observe when your morning starts in an almost perfect way, what is the impression for the whole day & when your routine little bit deviated from the planned one, how difficult to manage and deal with the rest of the chores.

Do you agree with me?

Mornings are the most crucial as well as the most productive time of the day. It is up to you, what start do you want to give your mornings messy or peaceful?

See, If you want everything organised and hassle-free, you have to put some extra efforts in it, If you are prepared for this then only you can achieve the planned one otherwise all the planning will be in vain because of the inappropriate execution.

Some of the points will help to organise your morning routine

1. First of all, start with yourself-

In most of the cases, the lady of the house takes charge of this so she should start with herself. If she will put some extra efforts and motivate herself to help the other family members to complete their tasks, most of the problem will solve automatically.

Here I suggest she should wake up a little earlier so at least she finishes her routine & further she doesn’t have to face any disturbance while doing her work.

I think“Lady of the house”is the backbone of the family so here other members should also give their support to make the house’s environment happier.

2. Start your routine the night before-

This helps a lot to make the morning organised. If you have a clear picture of the morning chores & you preplanned them then only, in the morning, you can execute otherwise all the planning & the execution in the morning simultaneously sounds very difficult at least for me.

3. Preplanning is the must

If you have small kids like me then most of the responsibilities of kids too on your shoulders because the husband is also busy in completing his routine so you can’t expect any help from his side, even more, you have to help him in their chores too.

That’s why preplanning is a must. Like Plan the menu for the morning and do some preparations in the advance at night, arrange the kid’s bag according to the time table,husband office’s bag according to his requirement, any other project related work, clean the kitchen for the next morning attack, Iron the uniform & keep at their designated place etc. etc.No work should be pending for morning.

If we do all these things properly then I am sure the morning will be the best time of the day where we can give the most productivity of the day.

Now with the following words, I end my post.

Be happy & Be productive.

Share your views and suggest your ideas to make the morning hassle-free. Take care. I will meet you in the next one.