Anger is the outburst of all those emotional feelings where either we or someone else take the by default right to prove anything correct from their point of view and make others culprits.
Ultimately this is the war between the thoughts and the actions.
Reasons are so obvious…..
I think everyone experienced that at some point in their life.
(A)When we feel, somebody wants to disturb our personal space and comfort & life.
(B)When someone questions about our personality, individuality & identity.
(C)When someone is not ready to listen to our point of view, disrespect that and treat us badly.
Including all of these, In short, I feel Ego, Over Expectation, Fear and Frustration all the main causes of anger.
I think the main reason for the anger is Ego. Ego doesn’t allow us even listen to another perspective and accept it.
If we know that now we can’t prove our point logically then we will take the support of anger definitely because we all have that kind of mindset that if someone is showing anger especially the elder one towards the younger ones or anyone else, they might be thinking another person surely did something wrong.
2. OVER EXPECTATION::
When we over expect from others and especially with our loved ones, we disappoint at certain times because every time, everything will not execute in a very particular way as we want.
We have to respect the other’s opinion too but we don’t think about it when we are in the arguments & fights and when the anger comes.
Whenever we are not confident about the things which we think that is in our control, not reacted like that, we feel helpless and we get scared and in that state of mind we react unnecessarily on each and every baseless point and in the last, this fear comes in the form of anger.
Whenever the things do not go as we want or wish or plan, we get irritated, frustrated with the situations and the people associated with that and sometimes it outbursts on those people also who are totally innocent and do not even involve in all of this.
How can we overcome this problem:
1. Self-introspection will definitely reduce the chances of anger:
I think anger is the choice initially but later it includes in our habits and nature, if it is the repetitive gesture, comes at every small and big situation then we should seriously think about the problem and the solution is just to sit and ask some questions to ourselves then calculate and evaluate all the results of those fights and arguments due to the anger and think twice about that Was my reaction necessary at that time, should I avoid that?
I am sure we will definitely get the answer because most of the things are taken place in that heat of the moment which we actually not mean that not even remember after that.
2. Meditation, self-management is the other points on which we have to work to get rid of that habit:
Meditation gives us the power to self strengthen because it’s root comes from childhood so the responsibility is ours.
All the parents should make sure that gesture shouldn’t convert into the habit. Otherwise, later on, things can go out of control too.
3.Self-control and Patience::
It is not necessary if one person is showing anger then others also do follow the same but this is not easy to ignore.
If you have mentally strong about the emotions then only you patiently handle the situation because if one person is only dealing with the anger, again and again, there is a possibility it will come in the worst form.
Here you have to decide in between two who is the more patient and understanding and want to try to sort the things more efficiently.
In the end, I only want to say it affects our mental and physical health so try to sort out things without getting hyper. This will also give a choice to other people to do the same.
Now ending this blog with the question” Is anger justified?”
I will catch you in my next one. Take care.