बीते कल की परछाई!

बीते कल की परछाई!

लोग कहते है कि बीते कल में जिया नहीं करते,

हाथों से रेत फिसल जाने के बाद मुट्ठी मला नहीं करते।

पर बीते कल की परछाईयाँ आपका पीछा कहाँ छोड़ती है?

कितना भी भूलने की कोशिश करो, कहीं न कहीं जहन में जिंदा रहती है।

कभी हिम्मत तो कभी उदासी देती है,

कभी कुछ नाज़ुक पल की यादें तो कभी आगे बढ़ने की नसीहत देती है।

बहुत कुछ सीखते है हम बीते कल की परछाइयों से,

कुछ की गई गलतियों से तो कुछ उन्हें ना दोहराने की कोशिश में खुद से की गई लड़ाईयों से।

इतना भी आसां नहीं होता, अतीत से पीछा छुड़ा लेना,

पर मिलता क्या है याद करने से, ये भी एक गंभीर बहस का मुद्दा है।

अगर अच्छाई लेकर आगे बढ़ रहे है, तो फिर भी ठीक है,

पर गर “रंजिश ए गम” पाल रखा है तो बहुत मुश्किल है।

जल्द से जल्द बाहर निकलना होगा इन परछाइयों से,

बीते दिनों की मायूँसियों से और तन्हाईयों से।

सच है कि बीते कल में जिया नहीं करते।

हाथों में से रेत फिसल जाने के बाद मुट्ठी मला नहीं करते।

©®दीपिका

दिल और दिमाग़ की जंग!

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2020/04/11/jang-dil-aur-dimag-ki/

इंतज़ार अच्छे वक़्त का!

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2020/04/10/intezaar-acche-waqt-ka/

हज़ारों बहाने जीने के!

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2020/04/09/hazaro-bahane-hai-jeene-ke/

गमों के बादल!

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2020/04/08/gamo-ke-baadal/

Friends and Friendship: Poetry Expression!

Hello Friends!

I know, I am posting it late but I believe every day is a right day to express your feelings towards your loved ones.

Belated Happy Friendship Day to all my lovely friends in the community.

Thanks for supporting me always and guiding me with the valuable suggestions.

Here is today’s poem dedicated to friends and friendship.

“एक पाती दोस्ती के नाम”!

दोस्त बनाए नहीं जाते बन जाते है,
खुद बखुद रिश्तों के तार जुड़ जाते है।

दोस्त तेरी दोस्ती ने खुशकिस्मत बना दिया।
जो सजदा कहीं न मिला वो तेरी आँखों ने बयां किया।

तू मुझ से ज्यादा मुझ पर भरोसा दिखाता है।
ऐ दोस्त! बता ना, तुझे मुझमें ऐसा क्या नज़र आता है?

कहीं बार गिर कर उठा हूँ मैं तेरा सहारा लेकर,
ख़ुदा का बंदा है तू! भूल जाता है खुद दुआएँ देकर।

दुआ है बस, तेरा मेरा साथ यूँ ही बना रहे।
भले ही अलग हो जाए राहें, पर मंज़िलें आकर मिला करे।

You can also listen to the poem here.

https://youtu.be/B6K6362NCaM

For English readers, I am not translating this one yet expressing the same feeling. I hope you like it.

Some friends are really like a support system.

Never ditch you either in the worst situations.

They are very clear about their friendship goals.

Always ready to help their friend in each up and downs.

This gesture of my friend fills me with gratitude.

You are an awesome personality with a lovely attitude.

#deepikawrites

You can also read one of my Hindi poem on friendship. Here is the link.

“Dost Teri Dosti”

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/07/02/dost-teri-dosti/

I hope you will like the poem. Thanks for reading.

Stay tuned.

Regards and Gratitude,

Deepika

Sorry Papa!

It is true that we rarely express our love and emotional connect towards our fathers.

I generally talk about my beloved “Maa”, but no doubt, I am my Papa’s princess and he is my hero too.
I have expressed my feelings about him in one of my poem.

” Daddy’s Princess”

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/04/04/day-4-daddys-princess/

We often fail to express our gratitude towards our fathers but thanks to Vartika for giving me a reason to write about him.

I am feeling quite emotional while writing this post because I am sharing some of the moments of my life which I never expressed before.

I do remember being close to my father in my early childhood, most of my daily routine chores were taken care by my father till my adolescence because I have a younger brother too and my mum was looking after him.

But as time passed and I entered teenage I felt my connection with papa lacking that special warmth because of whatever reasons.

Maybe he was so strict in some specific situations and maybe my maa always had that extra soft corner towards me and my younger brother.

Now I understand that I was totally wrong. I was only concerned about my point of view and literally made no effort to understand what he believed.

But after marriage when I am observing my husband now in the role of my kid’s father, I can easily understand those emotions and concern of a father.

Sorry, Papa! I was wrong at that time. Sorry for all the mistakes which I ever made. Sorry for disconnecting and not listening to your thoughts. Sorry, Papa!
This is the small tribute from my side to all the fathers.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2019/06/16/happy-fathers-day/

Now I realise & feel that all the sacrifices which you made for us. Now I understand, how you managed everything even in the worst situations.

I saw your anger only but now Papa, I understand what you were facing at that time. How difficult it was to handle all the expenses being the only earning member.

But now I feel very proud that I am your daughter. I also try to not give up in tough situations as you set an example for me.

Love you papa and salute you for your every single effort. I know you are always concerned about my bright future even now so I promise you papa I will never let you down.

Love you, Papa!

ज़िन्दगी का सफ़र

ज़िंदगी का सफ़र यूँ ही रूंठते मनाते हुए गुजर जाएगा।

कुछ साथ रह जाएगा तो कुछ पीछे छूट जाएगा।

हम ढूंढते ही रह जायेगें उन बीते हुए लम्हों को,

लोग आगे बढ़ जायेगें और बस यादों का कारवाँ रह जायेगा।

यही वक़्त सही है गुफ़्तुगू का अपनों से, कुछ कहने का, कुछ सुनने का,

वरना बाद में तो सिर्फ़ सिफ़र का दीदार ही रह जायेगा।

छोटी सी ये ज़िन्दगानी है, पल झपकते ही गुज़र जाएगी।

हम अफ़सोस ही करते रह जायेगे और कई कहानियाँ अतीत में ही दफ़न हो जाएगी।

“Poetry Collab” with Blogger Friends

Hello Friends,

I am super excited to announce that today’s post is very special to me because this is the “Poetry collab” post with my three super talented and amazing fellow bloggers.

And Now I can proudly say that all three bloggers turned into Authors.

Let me introduce Priyanka Nair first. (Virtual Siyahi) She is a poet, blogger and author now. You can check her first Ebook’s link too which is based on mental health. Wonderful lady with a golden heart. Big fan of her writing. Here is the link, you can go and check her work.

http://priyankaspen.com

Second is Rashmi Jain. She is also a poet, blogger and author. Again she is a very good friend of mine. Talented Hindi poetry writer. Here is the link of her blog. You can also check her Ebook which is the collection of Hindi poetries.

http://bewildagain.wordpress.com/

Last but not least Vibhu Gaur. He is also a blogger, poet and recently turned Author. Very talented and mature writer. Here is the link of his blog. You can also check his Ebook too.

https://onelife513532705.wordpress.com/

Now come to the poetry part, this poetry starts with Vibhu’s words, first 4 lines are written by Vibhu, next four by me then next two lines by Rashmi and finishing part belongs to Priyanka.

Here is the poem.

खून की गर्मी और बातों में नरमी,

होश का हिसाब और हाज़िर हो ज़वाब।

शेर की दहाड़, आँखों की पुकार,

ज़ज्बातों पर लगाम और थोड़ा सा प्यार।

बाहर से सख्त़ पर अंदर से नरम।

रोबिला स्वभाव पर कुदरत से लगाव।

भर जाता है करुणा से उसका कोमल मन।

जब भी देखे लाचारी और बेबसी से भरा रुदन।

दफ़न किया है इस सीने में अरमानों को उसने कई बार।

औरों की खातिर दी है चाहतों की बलि हर बार।

करीब से देखोगे तो जान पाओगे,

कि बेशक वो मुस्कराया करता है,

पर अक्सर लोगों से अपना ग़म छुपाया करता है।

I hope you will like this special effort by us. What are your views about this poetry? You can write in the comment section below.

I will invite to Priyanka next for taking this effort ahead.

I will catch you in the next one. Till then take care and happy weekend.

Regards & Gratitude

Deepika

Generation Gap: How to balance between one generation to another?

Hi!

Welcome back!!!

I am back with a new post named Generation Gap.

Nowadays I am quite busy with my daughter’s school exams, mother in law’s health issues and some other miscellaneous works. That’s the reason I didn’t get the chance to publish any post.

It happens sometimes. According to the priority, some other things take back seat. Anyway, Let’s come to today’s topic, “Generation gap”

What is your definition of the Generation Gap?

I think the difference of opinions, beliefs, values and practices between one generation and another generation is called the generation gap.

The gap of two or three decades between the two generations changes the thought process and practices of the younger ones.

It is true and we have to accept that Change is a continuous and gradual process. We should keep in the mind that differences will come on the basis of the thought process.

Today generation’s main focus on life style’s comfort and ease and secure their future first. On the other hand, another generation (old ones) is more focused on values and rituals. That creates conflict sometimes.

This is my observation and opinion, your thinking might be different.

Though three generations work simultaneously Self, Parents and Grandparents so it is obvious all the three generations will have their opinion, thinking and points to prove their logic.

Then what to do? How can we make a balance?

We need to understand certain points, to understand the whole process.

The points are-

1. Try to bridge the gap by listening, accepting and respecting the views and differences.

2. Try to maintain a better understanding by taking an effort to understand their point of view too.

3. Always keep in the mind that relationships are more valuable than differences. It takes lots of time, efforts and sacrifices to make a relationship stronger and on the other hand, it’s very easy to break within a second for various reasons.

4. Try to think about both the perspective, what will we think and how to react at the age of them. We will definitely get the answer.

5. At least try to fulfil their basic demands what they expected from you, your time, love, care and concern, whenever it is possible, show your concern for them.

6. Parents and grandparents should also try to understand the younger generation’s desires, passion, ambition towards their life.

7. Try to give an individual space to everyone. This is the main beauty of every relationship.

8. Don’t force anybody to live their lives in a certain way. Everybody has certain desires and goals for their life, let them free to live and where they need guidance, don’t hesitate to ask them.

9. Balance and adjustment is the key to solve all the misunderstandings. Some efforts from your side and some efforts from their side will help to make the life’s progressive, peaceful and happening.

These points are applicable to both generations. Sometimes first give and then get the formula works the best.

This is my way of thinking regarding this, what do you think and what is your point of view, please share with me through your comments.

Communication, discussion and then the conclusion is the best way to solve any problems. Be part of making the world happier.

Take care. Be happy and be productive.

Catch you all in the next one.

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Announcement !!!!

Hello all !!! How are you doing?

I have an announcement for all of you. I have some commitments for this month as well as the next so may be possible I wouldn’t be able to publish the posts regularly.

Thanks a lot for all your support and hoping for the same as earlier!

I will try my level best to set a new schedule according to the new responsibilities. I am sure, I will come back with some of more daily life challanging and motivating topics. Till then take care. Be productive.

Happy Sunday.

Merry Christmas!!: My Christmas Story

Hello all…..Merry Christmas!!!! May this Christmas brings an abundance of joy & happiness, health, wealth and success and peace in everyone’s life.

As this festival of “giving”, we can also try to give some wonderful moments to others.

I am not a Christian then how I connect with Christmas. Today I will share my feeling for Christmas and how I relate to this festival.

My birthday is on 24 December and as you all know Christmas comes on 25 December. You will ask then what is the connection between these two dates. I will tell you, I was in a Catholic school so Christmas Celebration was the most memorable part of my school memories.

Our school celebrated Christmas one day before on 24 December and that was my birth date. When I was a kid, this thing fascinated me a lot that my birthday and Jesus Christ’s birthday comes on the same day.

Later I came to know that it was a celebration in school a day before but then only I feel very special on that day because I celebrated my birthday in school and the whole school was in a festive mood.

Today also I remember how we all planned for Christmas celebrations with the help of the teachers. All the memories of Christmas remain fresh in my mind like decorating Christmas tree, attending Church, waiting for the “Santa Claus” to arrive and the most loved part, the recreation of the moment how Jesus Christ born.

Through my school, I got to know about the festival in detail and really I loved every part of it.

I can’t forget that “Christmas Carols” which gave me a totally emotional feeling about the festival. I loved that songs, some of them today also I recite and recall that feeling.

The icing on the cake of the Christmas Celebration besides those songs, distributions of the cakes and Chocolates because I love chocolates and cakes very much.

Here I would like to mention something about my school that those were the best moments of my life which I lived in my school. I learnt a lot of things there but the moral values I learnt from there that helped me a lot to make me a person as I am today.

I feel very proud that I was the part of that school, that school gave me a lot and that’s why I feel a special connection from my school.No matters I couldn’t recreate that moment again but that bond with my school secured a very special place in my heart.

I met some of the best people in my life there and that was my teachers. I share a special bond with my all the teachers as I share with my mother and that was the speciality of my school how they create a bond with the students.

Oh! I totally lost in my school memories. Now I am missing my school. As I am an emotional person it suits me. By the way apart from this, I would like to congratulate “Merry Christmas” again in advance to all of you. I know it’s early to say but I couldn’t wait for this and expressed my feelings.

Enjoy these Christmas decorating days and festive mood of celebration. Take care. I will catch you later in my next one. Be festive!

Criticism: How to take it!

Hello everyone!!

How are you all doing? Hoping all are doing good.

Today I will share my point of view about the topic “Criticism“. Everybody has to face it at some level of their life.

How one should take it or react it, today I will talk about it.

What is the real mean of the criticism?

How it affects life?

What are the positives or negatives?

We need to understand it at a more deeper level.

What is Criticism?

“Criticism is the expression of finding faults & mistakes as well as the good part of the particulars and then judging them on the basis of their acts.”

True Criticism should be based on the above definition but in actuality is it happen exactly the same?

Think about it and share your experiences regarding this.

Here I feel that the so-called people and relatives some friends and families who have the authority or they take it by default to judge someone else.

They should first introspect themselves on the same basis where they are judging others.

If they have the qualities which they are talking about then they can give their opinion and only if required and if they haven’t then they should work on themselves first rather than commenting on other’s plus and minuses.

Two possibilities

1. Positive Approach- Here one has the pure intention to improve other’s mistakes. This is the thoughtful feedback where he analyses the situation and gives the solution to improve accordingly. That is called Positive approach.

2. Negative Approach – This totally depends on the person’s psychology. How he thinks and make a statement about others?

Is he insecure or jealous of others?

If yes then this is 100% sure he will only focus on the negatives because this is how he approaches the things generally?

This is purely a Negative Approach.

Here this is advisable one should focus on the situations more rather than the person.

How to handle it-

1. I know it is very difficult to listen something wrong and unpleasant about us but it is also a fact in our consciousness we exactly know the truth about ourselves.

If we are wrong and we need to change our behaviour and approach then definitely should go for it.

If we know and understand the hidden truth behind it, why they are doing it then ignoring them is the best way because arguments with such type of people are totally wastage of our time.

2. If you can’t ignore them then respond to them in a respectful manner because they want to provoke and make an issue. Their motto is clear, if we also lose our patience by listening to their nonsense shits then they will catch the chance to be innocent and prove us wrong.

Don’t give that chance to them because they use it as their play card.

See, Criticism can be good in a certain way but only we need to understand the psyche of the person.

Don’t get so personal and emotional due to the criticism because you are the one who knows the best and the worst about you.

Doesn’t matter what people are talking about because there are only a few who appreciate the good work, others are only want to do leg-pulling.

Believe in yourselves and keep doing the good work. This is the life. One will always speak something good or bad about someone else so we can’t help in it.

With these words now I am ending this one, will catch you in the next one. Take care.