Anger :Right Or Wrong?

How can we define the term Anger-

Anger is the outburst of all those emotional feelings where either we or someone else take the by default right to prove anything correct from their point of view and make others culprits.

Ultimately this is the war between the thoughts and the actions.

Reasons:

Reasons are so obvious…..

I think everyone experienced anger at some point in their life.

(A)When we feel, somebody wants to disturb our personal space and comfort & life.

(B)When someone questions about our personality, individuality & identity.

(C)When someone is not ready to listen to our point of view, disrespect that and treat us badly.

Including all of these, In short, I feel Ego, Over Expectation, Fear and Frustration all the main causes of anger.

1.EGO::

I think the main reason for the anger is Ego. Ego doesn’t allow us even listen to another perspective and accept it.

If we know that now we can’t prove our point logically then we will take the support of anger definitely because we all have that kind of mindset that if someone is showing anger especially the elder one towards the younger ones or anyone else, they might be thinking another person surely did something wrong.

2. OVER EXPECTATION::

When we over expect from others and especially with our loved ones, we disappoint at certain times because every time, everything will not execute in a very particular way as we want.

We have to respect the other’s opinion too but we don’t think about it when we are in the arguments & fights and when the anger comes.

3.FEAR::

Whenever we are not confident about the things which we think that is in our control, not reacted like that, we feel helpless and we get scared and in that state of mind we react unnecessarily on each and every baseless point and in the last, this fear comes in the form of anger.

4.FRUSTRATION::

Whenever the things do not go as we want or wish or plan, we get irritated, frustrated with the situations and the people associated with that and sometimes it outbursts on those people also who are totally innocent and do not even involve in all of this.

How can we overcome this problem:

1. Self-introspection will definitely reduce the chances of anger:

I think anger is the choice initially but later it includes in our habits and nature, if it is the repetitive gesture, comes at every small and big situation then we should seriously think about the problem and the solution is just to sit and ask some questions to ourselves then calculate and evaluate all the results of those fights and arguments due to the anger and think twice about that Was my reaction necessary at that time, should I avoid that?

I am sure we will definitely get the answer because most of the things are taken place in that heat of the moment which we actually not mean that not even remember after that.

2. Meditation, self-management is the other points on which we have to work to get rid of that habit:

Meditation gives us the power to self strengthen because it’s root comes from childhood so the responsibility is ours.

All the parents should make sure that gesture shouldn’t convert into the habit. Otherwise, later on, things can go out of control too.

3.Self-control and Patience::

It is not necessary if one person is showing anger then others also do follow the same but this is not easy to ignore.

If you have mentally strong about the emotions then only you patiently handle the situation because if one person is only dealing with the anger, again and again, there is a possibility it will come in the worst form.

Here you have to decide in between two who is the more patient and understanding and want to try to sort the things more efficiently.

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In the end, I only want to say it affects our mental and physical health so try to sort out things without getting hyper. This will also give a choice to other people to do the same.

Now ending this blog with the question” Is anger justified?”

I will catch you in my next one. Take care.

Responsibilities and Priorities: How to make a balance?

Hello friends…..!!!!

I am back with a new post, I know it has been a very long time, sorry for that but lots of new things were taking place in my life so busy with dealing all of those. Now talk about today’s topic.

Today’s topic is responsibilities & priorities: how to make a balance?

This is true, life will give us challenges & we have to decide our priorities.

If we get success to prioritize our responsibilities according to the current scenario, nothing can be better than this.

We always talk about the responsibilities but sometimes forget to prioritize & here I think we do a mistake, not to understand what current scenario demands.

This is absolutely true that we have to change our priorities according to the need & the situation.

Everybody’s life is slightly or totally different from others because their goals, their desires, their expectations, their experiences, their situations are totally different from others and this is the real beauty of the life.

Everybody is dealing with different types of situations but the goal is ultimate, all want good health, wealth, peace, happiness & satisfaction from their lives.

Now the question is if we all know the real fact about life then from where the problems start and create a mess in certain areas of our lives.

Here we discuss a few points about how can we enhance productivity & change the end results which cause kiosk.

Here I will share only my point of view towards my life and it will be totally unfair to judge other’s life because they are facing totally different situations.

Firstly I talk about the responsibilities, here In India either we live in a nuclear family or joint family.

If we live in the joint family then the responsibilities divide & distribute according to the family member’s availability & capacity.

That is a totally different issue “Are they get success to do justice with their duties or not”?

Joke apart!!!!!!

Let’s continue

If we are in a nuclear family, then the scenario will be totally different. In that situation, one should really understand the real requirement or need of the moment.

Here, I will talk about only nuclear families with small kids who are totally dependent on their parents to fulfil all their requirements.

As we all know at a certain time only parents are the one who takes the responsibilities of all the household chores & the earning source.

Here either husband or wife has to give their maximum time to earn the bread for the family & the left one need to understand his or her responsibilities towards the family.

Here they can’t help themselves because options are so limited that’s why one should talk to another member of the family who is taking responsibility for fulfilling the rest of the things.

Some points are dedicated to whom who live in a nuclear family

(a) PUMPING & BOOSTING YOURSELF:

Steal some good quality time for yourself that will refresh you and will give you the strength to deal with all the challenging & awkward situations. If you are happy then only you can try to keep other’s happy.

(b)PROPER COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER ACCORDING TO YOUR ROLE:

There is no chance for any confusion regarding your duties & responsibilities which you are going to serve for your family volunteered.

Because miscommunication & confusion only make kiosk so sit with your partner and discuss all the points in detail & then make a final decision of about your role.

As I said earlier options are so limited that’s why this is expected from one person that he or she should take a lead for maximum roles when the kids need them the most.

The decision is totally dependent on the specific situation if one is earning for the family so for sure it is obvious that the second one automatically will serve the other chores.

Remember all responsibilities are equally important & you both are the sharing the same platform. Ego shouldn’t come in this.

(c)KIDS SHOULD BE THE FIRST PRIORITY:

As they are not in the condition to take care of themselves so that is our responsibility to give them love, support & the most important to give lots of time to them

Because this is the time when the kids are making their base, learning new things so one should always be there to listen to their confusions, their thoughts and talks. This will really help them to make their personality.

I know this is not an easy task to take a step back from your ambitions but here you have to choose in between the family or career, one thing will affect for sure so mentally prepare for that.

Then what is the solution?

Here we can do one thing, set our routine according to them. Try to avoid some other things just like rooms are messy and kids want to play with you, give your time to the kids first, we can clean it after some time here you need to decide your priorities first.

(d)LOVE YOUR WORK WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF ALL THE TIME, EXPECT LESS:

Moments will come when you will feel low, demotivated, helpless & lonely but don’t let overpower these things on you, this phase will also pass, nothing is permanent in this world.

Be optimistic, try to find some positivity in each unfavourable condition.

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Help and stand for yourself, Love yourself and your family they will definitely love you back.

From this note, I am ending my blog. I hope this blog will help you to understand your situation better. I will catch you all in my next one. Take care.

Be happy & spread happiness.