Adjustments: Justified??

Hello all!!

Today I am going to talk about the topic which we all experienced so many times in our life.

Adjustments

Are you feeling heavy to listen to this word?

This is because we have already fixed the specific perception about the specific word and the person, somewhere in our subconscious mind.

Whenever we listen to that specific word or think about the person, related feeling with those particular automatically comes in our mind and In advance, we start to feel uncomfortable.

We start to think about only the negative part of that like now we have to do that thing which we never want to do.

Like we think now we have to do compromises but we don’t want to come out from our comfort zone, that’s why we start to feel uncomfortable.

Why should we not think about the positive part of that situation too? Why we always make adjustments in the negative sense always?

Why I am saying all those things because I want to relate my point with that specific thing when we are standing in the situation of adjustment. How our state of mind works at that time?

If we take it positively we can do much more productive and fruitful above our expectations.

What can we do?

First of all, we can try to start with the basics. What are the current situations? What are the options available? What are the dos and donts for the situation??

We have to calculate all the aspects of the situations they come to pick the best option which is available at that time.

In actual, Adjustments are nothing, only based on balancing the situation with our wisdom to improve the outcome of the situation. If we use this in the correct way this can be key to unlock the trouble.

Here I want to quote the words-

“We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails-Dolly Parton”

Let’s take a real-life example to understand it. Suppose If we are in the situation where we are helpless, no other options we have, we know we have to do it at anyhow either we want to do or not.

We cannot avoid it at all now you think what would be the better idea. Either stand against the situation and persons which are related to that or sit calmly, understand the situation, our role in the whole process and now what can we do something better in the situation. I know the second idea is not easy but at least we can try it.

Think. If somebody is completely dependent on you or want help from your side and he is in the helplessness situation, you know that you are the only hope for him then how can you go in the denial mode.

Here we have to make our mind that I am the special one to whom God gave the chance and opportunity to perform the best part in a different way.

Believe me, we will feel some special kind of energy and here all our efforts for adjustments can change the whole situation.

Here I agree, we have to face some troubles and discomforts too because we have to do something extra from the routine. Perhaps our adjustments would be the boon for someone else.

If our efforts, our adjustments can do some positive change in some other person’s life then go for a check at least once and then see what the inner satisfaction you get for yourself which you never feel before.

I am not saying we should do adjustments always but when it necessary and good for someone else too, just take a try.

Now ending with the question adjustments good or bad? take your call on this.

Responsibilities and Priorities: How to make a balance?

Hello friends…..!!!!

I am back with a new post, I know it has been a very long time, sorry for that but lots of new things were taking place in my life so busy with dealing all of those. Now talk about today’s topic.

Today’s topic is responsibilities & priorities: how to make a balance?

This is true, life will give us challenges & we have to decide our priorities.

If we get success to prioritize our responsibilities according to the current scenario, nothing can be better than this.

We always talk about the responsibilities but sometimes forget to prioritize & here I think we do a mistake, not to understand what current scenario demands.

This is absolutely true that we have to change our priorities according to the need & the situation.

Everybody’s life is slightly or totally different from others because their goals, their desires, their expectations, their experiences, their situations are totally different from others and this is the real beauty of the life.

Everybody is dealing with different types of situations but the goal is ultimate, all want good health, wealth, peace, happiness & satisfaction from their lives.

Now the question is if we all know the real fact about life then from where the problems start and create a mess in certain areas of our lives.

Here we discuss a few points about how can we enhance productivity & change the end results which cause kiosk.

Here I will share only my point of view towards my life and it will be totally unfair to judge other’s life because they are facing totally different situations.

Firstly I talk about the responsibilities, here In India either we live in a nuclear family or joint family.

If we live in the joint family then the responsibilities divide & distribute according to the family member’s availability & capacity.

That is a totally different issue “Are they get success to do justice with their duties or not”?

Joke apart!!!!!!

Let’s continue…

If we are in a nuclear family, then the scenario will be totally different. In that situation, one should really understand the real requirement or need of the moment.

Here, I will talk about only nuclear families with small kids who are totally dependent on their parents to fulfil all their requirements.

As we all know at a certain time only parents are the one who takes the responsibilities of all the household chores & the earning source.

Here either husband or wife has to give their maximum time to earn the bread for the family & the left one need to understand his or her responsibilities towards the family.

Here they can’t help themselves because options are so limited that’s why one should talk to another member of the family who is taking responsibility for fulfilling the rest of the things.

Some points are dedicated to whom who live in a nuclear family–

(a) PUMPING & BOOSTING YOURSELF:

Steal some good quality time for yourself that will refresh you and will give you the strength to deal with all the challenging & awkward situations. If you are happy then only you can try to keep other’s happy.

(b)PROPER COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER ACCORDING TO YOUR ROLE:

There is no chance for any confusion regarding your duties & responsibilities which you are going to serve for your family volunteered.

Because miscommunication & confusion only make kiosk so sit with your partner and discuss all the points in detail & then make a final decision of about your role.

As I said earlier options are so limited that’s why this is expected from one person that he or she should take a lead for maximum roles when the kids need them the most.

The decision is totally dependent on the specific situation if one is earning for the family so for sure it is obvious that the second one automatically will serve the other chores.

Remember all responsibilities are equally important & you both are the sharing the same platform. Ego shouldn’t come in this.

(c)KIDS SHOULD BE THE FIRST PRIORITY:

As they are not in the condition to take care of themselves so that is our responsibility to give them love, support & the most important to give lots of time to them

Because this is the time when the kids are making their base, learning new things so one should always be there to listen to their confusions, their thoughts and talks. This will really help them to make their personality.

I know this is not an easy task to take a step back from your ambitions but here you have to choose in between the family or career, one thing will affect for sure so mentally prepare for that.

Then what is the solution?

Here we can do one thing, set our routine according to them. Try to avoid some other things just like rooms are messy and kids want to play with you, give your time to the kids first, we can clean it after some time here you need to decide your priorities first.

(d)LOVE YOUR WORK WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T JUDGE YOURSELF ALL THE TIME, EXPECT LESS:

Moments will come when you will feel low, demotivated, helpless & lonely but don’t let overpower these things on you, this phase will also pass, nothing is permanent in this world.

Be optimistic, try to find some positivity in each unfavourable condition.

https://myaspiringhope.wordpress.com/2018/11/15/dont-loose-the-hope/

Help and stand for yourself, Love yourself and your family they will definitely love you back.

From this note, I am ending my blog. I hope this blog will help you to understand your situation better. I will catch you all in my next one. Take care.

Be happy & spread happiness.