Criticism: How to take it!

Hello everyone!!

How are you all doing? Hoping all are doing good.

Today I will share my point of view about the topic “Criticism“. Everybody has to face it at some level of their life.

How one should take it or react it, today I will talk about it.

What is the real mean of the criticism?

How it affects life?

What are the positives or negatives?

We need to understand it at a more deeper level.

What is Criticism?

“Criticism is the expression of finding faults & mistakes as well as the good part of the particulars and then judging them on the basis of their acts.”

True Criticism should be based on the above definition but in actuality is it happen exactly the same?

Think about it and share your experiences regarding this.

Here I feel that the so-called people and relatives some friends and families who have the authority or they take it by default to judge someone else.

They should first introspect themselves on the same basis where they are judging others.

If they have the qualities which they are talking about then they can give their opinion and only if required and if they haven’t then they should work on themselves first rather than commenting on other’s plus and minuses.

Two possibilities

1. Positive Approach- Here one has the pure intention to improve other’s mistakes. This is the thoughtful feedback where he analyses the situation and gives the solution to improve accordingly. That is called Positive approach.

2. Negative Approach – This totally depends on the person’s psychology. How he thinks and make a statement about others?

Is he insecure or jealous of others?

If yes then this is 100% sure he will only focus on the negatives because this is how he approaches the things generally?

This is purely a Negative Approach.

Here this is advisable one should focus on the situations more rather than the person.

How to handle it-

1. I know it is very difficult to listen something wrong and unpleasant about us but it is also a fact in our consciousness we exactly know the truth about ourselves.

If we are wrong and we need to change our behaviour and approach then definitely should go for it.

If we know and understand the hidden truth behind it, why they are doing it then ignoring them is the best way because arguments with such type of people are totally wastage of our time.

2. If you can’t ignore them then respond to them in a respectful manner because they want to provoke and make an issue. Their motto is clear, if we also lose our patience by listening to their nonsense shits then they will catch the chance to be innocent and prove us wrong.

Don’t give that chance to them because they use it as their play card.

See, Criticism can be good in a certain way but only we need to understand the psyche of the person.

Don’t get so personal and emotional due to the criticism because you are the one who knows the best and the worst about you.

Doesn’t matter what people are talking about because there are only a few who appreciate the good work, others are only want to do leg-pulling.

Believe in yourselves and keep doing the good work. This is the life. One will always speak something good or bad about someone else so we can’t help in it.

With these words now I am ending this one, will catch you in the next one. Take care.

Karma:What do you think about?

Hello everyone!!

Today’s post is all about what we think, what we say & what we do, in short about the”Karma“.

Some of you might believe in this theory and some might not be. It is absolutely ok. This post is for those who believe in karma like me.

What is “Karma” mean for you?

As I know, I can say on my behalf and my experience “Karma is the belief of getting the same in the form of thoughts, words and actions which are given to others by us.

It works or not, different people can have different opinions but I personally believe in this concept.

This belief inspires me always to choose the right path in the state of any confusion. It gives me the strength to follow the rule of my life that always be responsible for your thoughts, words & actions.

How others are taking this, it totally up to them & that is their right too so don’t bother about that. That’s the way I keep motivating myself when anything wrong happens to me.

If you go deeper into it, you are able to understand what we are actually doing. How are things behaving and reacting?

We are sending energies through our thoughts, words and actions which are receiving by the others and they are also making their mind accordingly and how the whole cycle works.

We have to focus more at the starting point of this. From where it starts? What is the root point of this?

If we are responsible for the initial energies which are spreading all around then definitely we have to be more careful & more responsible for our actions and words because this makes our aura too.

If we are creating the same type of energies, again and again, this will represent us as an individual and that’s how we make our personality by our own, can’t blame others for it.

If I want good for me then I must be ready to give something better to others first. It will work in a reciprocal way.

Good Karma always pays for you. I personally experienced it.

What do you think about it? Share your opinion in the comment section.

Now I take your leave, have a great day ahead!!

Regards & Gratitude,

Deepika

Uncertainty is the biggest challenge!!

Have you thought ever what makes us different from others? Why we own different positions or roles in our life? What makes someone so successful?

In my opinion, our approach and our actions towards life really make that difference. Everybody follow the different rules in their life. According to their nature & likings, they decide some goal for their lives.

On the other hand, some others live someone else’s dreams. They always live in confusion. They might not clear about their vision. They choose the path which is decided by others. This act of those pushes them one step back from their goal always.

I saw the people with the same resources and the same facilities, one trend on the top and the other still struggles for the same thing.

Why is it happen?

Those who have a clear vision for their goals, no uncertainty in their mind, use their limited resources in the best way.

They choose to affect the people by their work rather be affected by the people in their surroundings. That’s the reason one person leads and others follow their instructions.

If you observe minutely then you get to know how earlier they set his mind for their aim. They never think about the role, they only focus on their goal and through their determination, dedication and hard work, they achieve that.

This is all possible because he has that certainty & clarity in his mind, words & actions. If one get success to balance in those then nobody can stop them.

If you are loosing and not getting which you want to get reason is you only. You are the one who can change the things for you.

Noone other can take a guarantee on your behalf. You have to tie your belt tight and work on the weaknesses and the faults which are stopping you.

Come out from all those things which are becoming the hindrance between you and your vision. Decide the goal, find the ways to reach there. Regularly work on it, don’t worry about the results.

Uncertainty is the biggest challenge!!

Have you thought ever what makes us different from others? Why we own different positions or roles in our life? What makes someone so successful?

In my opinion, our approach and our actions towards life really make that difference. Everybody follow the different rules in their life. According to their nature & likings, they decide some goal for their lives.

On the other hand, some people live someone else’s dreams. They always live in confusion. They might not clear about their vision. They choose the path which is decided by others. This act of those pushes them one step back from their goal always.

I saw the people with the same resources and the same facilities, one trend on the top and the other still struggles for the same thing. Why is it happen?

Those who have a clear vision for their goals, no uncertainty in their mind, use their limited resources in the best way.

They choose to affect the people by their work rather be affected by the people in their surroundings.

That’s the reason one person leads and others follow their instructions.

If you observe minutely then you get to know, how they set their mind for their aim. They never think about the role, they only focus on their goal and through their determination, dedication and hard work, they achieve that. This is all possible because he has that certainty & clarity in his mind, words & actions.

If one get success to balance in those then nobody can stop them.

If you are loosing and not getting which you want to get, try to find out the reason. You are the one who can change the things for yourself.

Noone other can take a guarantee on your behalf. You have to tie your belt tight and work on the weaknesses and the faults which are stopping you.

Come out from all those things which are becoming the hindrance between you and your vision.

Decide the goal, find the ways to reach there. Regularly work on it, don’t worry about the results.

Make your passion,your profession::Do you Agree?

We all are unique. God gifted all with some of the special and unique qualities which make our unique personality. I can’t be same as like you & in the same way, you can’t be same as like me.

Everybody has a unique spark, desire or wish in which either they have the birth born talent or want to learn as a hobby & later continue as a passion or profession.

It is the most wonderful and happening thing of the world that which they actually love to do, exactly they do.

I totally agree with the fact that does what you love to do. It’s not about the competition, what the other people are doing, maybe they are doing what they love to do so don’t follow anyone blindly.

You discover your passion, what makes you feel happy. What you actually want to explore and pursue as a profession later.

How do you know that what your passion is?

Very simple, which makes you feel the happiest and out of the world. You don’t bother about the time and other things when you are doing that. This is the work as well as the fun for you, in which you feel alive. That would be your passion.

Now you found your passion and decided to make the profession the next step is to think and evaluate about the money.

We can’t ignore the fact that fulfil the basic needs is the biggest compulsion of life. We have to think about financial security too otherwise we will neither able to follow the passion nor get the financial stability.

Assume you are not getting enough through your passion turn profession, you can choose the alternate option because financial security must be the first priority when we don’t have any financial support from anywhere.

Now the question comes from where will this alternate option come. The answer is from your back up plan which you have to decide and plan earlier before picking up an option.

If this one is not working for them then they should switch to another one for getting some extra bucks which they are lacking for their survival.

Here one can continue with their passion or not, it’s totally their decision how they feel like to do.

If everything is going good & fantastic then no need to worry, continue with the same one, just adding some extra affects time to time.

My personal take is on that one should never drop that passion which he lives otherwise once in life he will feel regrated that he couldn’t take any efforts to start it.

In the end, I only want to add be prepared for everything, love yourself and others too, don’t think so much about the future, all the plannings do not work exactly always, live in the present, try to make the present better, future will definitely follow the path.

Take care, be happy always.

Make your passion,your profession::Do you Agree?

We all are unique. God gifted all with some of the special and unique qualities which make our unique personality. I can’t be same as like you & in the same way, you can’t be same as like me.

Everybody has a unique spark, desire or wish in which either they have the birth born talent or want to learn as a hobby & later continue as a passion or profession.

It is the most wonderful and happening thing of the world that which they actually love to do, exactly they do.

I totally agree with the fact that does what you love to do. It’s not about the competition, what the other people are doing, maybe they are doing what they love to do so don’t follow anyone blindly.

You discover your passion, what makes you feel happy. What you actually want to explore and pursue as a profession later.

How do you know that what your passion is?

Very simple, which makes you feel the happiest and out of the world. You don’t bother about the time and other things when you are doing that. This is the work as well as the fun for you, in which you feel alive. That would be your passion.

Now you found your passion and decided to make the profession the next step is to think and evaluate about the money.

We can’t ignore the fact that to fulfil the basic needs is the biggest compulsion of life. We have to think about financial security too otherwise we will neither able to follow the passion nor get the financial stability.

Assume you are not getting enough through your passion turn profession, you can choose the alternate option because financial security must be the first priority when we don’t have any financial support from anywhere.

Now the question comes from where will this alternate option come. The answer is from your back up plan which you have to decide and plan earlier before picking up an option.

If this one is not working for them then they should switch to another one for getting some extra bucks which they are lacking for their survival. Here one can continue with their passion or not, it’s totally their decision how they feel like to do.

If everything is going good, fantastic then no need to worry, continue with the same one, just adding some extra affects time to time.

My personal take is on that one should never drop that passion which he lives otherwise once in life he will feel regrated that he couldn’t take any efforts to start it.

In the end, I only want to add be prepared for everything, love yourself and others too, don’t think so much about the future, all the plannings do not work exactly always, live in the present, try to make the present better, future will definitely follow the path.

Take care, be happy always.

Make your passion,your profession::Do you Agree?

We all are unique. God gifted all with some of the special and unique qualities which make our unique personality. I can’t be same as like you & in the same way, you can’t be as like me.

Everybody has a unique spark, desire or wish in which either they have the birth born talent or want to learn as a hobby & later continue as a passion or profession.

It is the most wonderful and happening thing of the world that which they actually love to do, exactly they do.

I totally agree with the fact that does what you love to do. It’s not about the competition, what the other people are doing, maybe they are doing what they love to do so don’t follow anyone blindly.

You discover your passion, what makes you feel happy. What you actually want to explore and pursue as a profession later.

How do you come to know that what your passion is?

Very simple, which makes you feel the happiest and out of the world. You don’t bother about the time and other things when you are doing that. This is the work as well as the fun for you, in which you feel alive. That would be your passion.

Now you found your passion and decided to make the profession the next step is to think and evaluate about the money.

We can’t ignore the fact that to fulfil the basic needs is the biggest compulsion of life. We have to think about financial security too otherwise we will neither able to follow the passion nor get the financial stability.

Assume you are not getting enough through your passion turn profession, you can choose the alternate option because financial security must be the first priority when we don’t have any financial support from anywhere.

Now the question comes from where will this alternate option come. The answer is -through your back up plan which you have to decide and plan earlier before picking up an option.

If this one is not working for them then they should switch to another one for getting some extra bucks which they are lacking for their survival.

Here one can continue with their passion or not, it’s totally their decision how they feel like to do.

If everything is going good & fantastic then no need to worry, continue with the same one, just adding some extra effects time to time.

My personal take is on that one should never drop that passion which he lives otherwise once in life he will feel regrated that he couldn’t take any efforts to start it.

In the end, I only want to add be prepared for everything, love yourself and others too, don’t think so much about the future, all the plannings do not work exactly always, live in the present, try to make the present better, future will definitely follow the path.

Take care, be happy always. Catch you all in my next one.

Don’t Judge!!!!!

Hello all! How are you doing? Hoping all is good!!

Yesterday I was reading an article & I was convinced with the words. I also started thinking about that yes this is very true and it’s happening with me also but at the same time, a question came into my mind why we judge others?

We are all different people, different people with different choices, different perspectives, different personalities, different priorities, different aims, different problems, different solutions everything is different in some or other way then how can we evaluate and judge some other people’s lives and activities?

I think this is wrong to compare one’s life to another. They are not like me and I am not like them.

We both have different abilities, different qualities, different plus, different minus, different thought processes and a different way to live our lives than logically where are the place and need of the comparison?

Everyone has its own thought process and experiences behind everything he does and reacts.

There is a reason why he or she is doing so? We never understand the reason why he is like that or behaving like that unless we go through the same circumstances and the same situations. Sometimes after knowing the reality, we don’t show any interest to know about that thing.

Why we are in so much hurry to judge anyone?

I only want to say to those peoples who only want to judge, Come to my place and try to live my life once and give the results which I am delivering in all the situations whether it is good or bad then only you come to know how difficult to handle all those situations which you neglect by saying that Oh! What special in that? What special are you doing?

If you don’t understand the things, then ask me. If you don’t agree to my viewpoint, my opinion, my reaction, it’s fair enough then clear your point.

If you don’t like anything at least say to me try to sort out. Here I notice some people don’t want to face that person to whom they are talking about? At least go and ask for the reasons why he did so.

In the end, I only want to say Judging someone is so easy but perform at their place might be so difficult for you so “Don’t Judge”. You don’t know the reasons and things what they have been going through and fighting for survival.

Try to respect others. Take care of yourselves and others too.

I hope you like today’s post. What do you think about it? Share with me. Stay tuned!!

Regards and Gratitude,

Deepika

Optimism: The Biggest Strength

Optimism is the art of taking out something good in every adverse situation. It is the belief, the hope, the positive attitude where these all elements try to make a positive aura for all the events.

It is also the choice where we try to feel positive about everything which is happening with us or around us, it is also the belief where we know, we have the choice to make our own destiny.

Optimism is the practice to be hopeful and positive & give weight to the best possible part of any situation.

Points which help to make a practice of optimism:

1. Focus always on the solutions which are available at that time, rather complaining about the problems. Problems will definitely come at every step of life, we can’t help ourselves in it, to accept and make our mind for the best one.

2. Think and find the different possibilities & solutions of the specific situation and get ready for yourself to perform in it.

3. Healthy mind always stays in only a healthy body so always give the first priority to your health. If we are fit and healthy everything we are planning can go for the execution. If we are only thinking, not performing, not executing then nothing will work for us.

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4. Less expectations from others will make our practice stronger. Believe in yourself that God gave us all the abilities which are necessary to execute all the works. Think confident about yourself that I have the potential to get success if I put my hundred per cent in that.

5. Focus more on the positivity and the positive attitude. It doesn’t mean that ignore all the problems and don’t try to find the solutions. It only means that find out what is going wrong and concentrate on correcting them.

6. Be a wide thinker and always keep that space in your mind where you can give some preference to others also.

If we practice on these points, definitely there will be a change in our attitude and we can improve in those things where we are lacking.

Optimism is one of the biggest strength of someone’s personality. It reduces stress, fear and all the negativity.

An optimistic person always spread good vibes and make the aura positive. People always share great energy with them.

So in the end, I can only say keep practising optimism. Good luck! Have a good day ahead.

Adjustments: Justified??

Hello all!!

Today I am going to talk about the topic which we all experienced so many times in our life.

Adjustments

Are you feeling heavy to listen to this word?

This is because we have already fixed the specific perception about the specific word and the person, somewhere in our subconscious mind.

Whenever we listen to that specific word or think about the person, related feeling with those particular automatically comes in our mind and In advance, we start to feel uncomfortable.

We start to think about only the negative part of that like now we have to do that thing which we never want to do.

Like we think now we have to do compromises but we don’t want to come out from our comfort zone, that’s why we start to feel uncomfortable.

Why should we not think about the positive part of that situation too? Why we always make adjustments in the negative sense always?

Why I am saying all those things because I want to relate my point with that specific thing when we are standing in the situation of adjustment. How our state of mind works at that time?

If we take it positively we can do much more productive and fruitful above our expectations.

What can we do?

First of all, we can try to start with the basics. What are the current situations? What are the options available? What are the dos and donts for the situation??

We have to calculate all the aspects of the situations they come to pick the best option which is available at that time.

In actual, Adjustments are nothing, only based on balancing the situation with our wisdom to improve the outcome of the situation. If we use this in the correct way this can be key to unlock the trouble.

Here I want to quote the words-

“We cannot direct the wind, but we can adjust the sails-Dolly Parton”

Let’s take a real-life example to understand it. Suppose If we are in the situation where we are helpless, no other options we have, we know we have to do it at anyhow either we want to do or not.

We cannot avoid it at all now you think what would be the better idea. Either stand against the situation and persons which are related to that or sit calmly, understand the situation, our role in the whole process and now what can we do something better in the situation. I know the second idea is not easy but at least we can try it.

Think. If somebody is completely dependent on you or want help from your side and he is in the helplessness situation, you know that you are the only hope for him then how can you go in the denial mode.

Here we have to make our mind that I am the special one to whom God gave the chance and opportunity to perform the best part in a different way.

Believe me, we will feel some special kind of energy and here all our efforts for adjustments can change the whole situation.

Here I agree, we have to face some troubles and discomforts too because we have to do something extra from the routine. Perhaps our adjustments would be the boon for someone else.

If our efforts, our adjustments can do some positive change in some other person’s life then go for a check at least once and then see what the inner satisfaction you get for yourself which you never feel before.

I am not saying we should do adjustments always but when it necessary and good for someone else too, just take a try.

Now ending with the question adjustments good or bad? take your call on this.