Marriage is the bonding of two different personalities who met, share their feelings and thoughts then decide to live together for the rest of their life.
This is the Modern definition of Marriage. In past, here in India, this phenomenon was slightly different. Couples got married without seeing their would-be partners, only with the consent of parents and elders.
Now Phenomenon has changed in India also at some level. Couple’s rights and consent have also considered in today’s marriage culture which is a good sign.
In Indian marriages, only two persons are not get married, their families are also involved and add new family goals for both sides of the people.
11 rules for making Indian marriages happy
*Choose the right person to marry.
*Don’t hesitate to express your feelings.
*Less expectation and more appreciation
*Forgiveness is a bliss. Practice forgiveness.
*Be honest and loyal to your partner.
*Grow respect and understanding for both sides.
*Maintain the dignity of your words and actions
*Ego is an Evil. Keep the distance.
*Support in the lows and sorrows.
*Possibility of good communication between the couple
*Importance of the personal space in a Relationship
1. Choose the right person to marry-
This is the most important rule, I feel. Choosing the right person is not as simple as it seems. After all, it is a matter of the whole life.
I prefer one should not be emotional while choosing her would be a partner. If her thoughts don’t resonate with him or they don’t respect and value each other thoughts then they should not go for that relationship because, in the end, all situational and logical events will end with conflict.
2. Don’t hesitate to express your feelings-
I think we as women are more expressive and don’t hesitate to express our feelings towards our men but I felt men are less expensive to show their love and gratitude to their wives or partner.
They value their efforts but don’t have enough courage to show their gratitude or appreciate them in a way that she wants.
3.Less Expectation & More appreciation-
Higher expectations are the root cause of any conflicts. Indian Wives expect a lot from their husbands and the same with their husbands too.
Indian wives are treated like Supermachine whose task is to make everyone happy in the family. From day one when she enters as a daughter in law in a new family is judged by most of the family members.
Men are in the pressure of balancing the situation from both sides. Men are also targeted and tagged that he is changed a lot after the marriage.
Nobody wants to appreciate the efforts of newlywed couples who are also trying to adjust the situation in their best way.
4. Forgiveness is a bliss, should practice forgiveness-
If one of the partners is trying to overcome their weaknesses, another one should respect the act.
Rather accusing on the wrong behaviour, again and again, try to know about the psyche. And If he or she accepts their mistakes then go forward in their life, definitely should give the chance.
I think who is more mature or who wants to act more maturely should come forward and forgive the other partner.
5. Be honest and loyal to your partner-
Trust is the biggest factor which is the base of any relationship that holds and ties the two persons in a chain. If any of them is not loyal to another, the relationship will not work ever.
If you want to take further your relationship, the true commitment must be there.
Any type of cheating ruins many lives dramatically.
6. Grow respect and understanding for both sides-
As I told earlier, Indian marriages are the symbol of two families involvement.
Both should respect and try to understand another point of view.
If the wife is not giving respect to the husband’s family then-husband hurts and If the husband doesn’t understand the value of the wife’s family the wife feels the same.
Indians girls always an edge towards their biological parents but also she tries her best to adjust in the new family so she should be welcomed for her efforts.
7. Maintain the dignity of words and actions-
Both husband and wives should keep an eye on their words and actions. It should check, How they are treating their partners by their behaviour?
Abusing language and domestic violence is the most common problem which comes in a dirty form in every second couple in India.
8. Ego is evil! Keep the distance-
Egoistic approach ruins both the lives. The problem is both husband and wife don’t want to leave their ego.
She should come first and say sorry, husband thinks. What did I do, Why should I go? Wife’s reactions.
You can imagine the situation If both will try to prove their point right then how the communication will start?
One partner has to come in front and take charge of the egoless conversation.
9.Support in the lows and sorrows-
This is life, up and downs will come in a certain gap of time. If you think that you will live only happy moments of your life with your partner then you are mistaken.
Come out from the fantasy and welcome to the real world of challenges. When the lows will come, you have to stand like an anchor in your partner’s life.
10.Possibility of good communication between the couple-
This is a very dangerous phenomenon of a marriage where couples don’t want to talk with each other.
Whatever the situations there should be a space of communication between the couples.
Don’t drag the situation to that extent point where the chances of communication are the lowest.
All types of misunderstandings should be vanished by egoless communication.
11.Importance of the personal space in a relationship-
Agreed! Husband wife shares the very intimate closeness but at the same time, they both want to get their personal spaces where they can work on their personal interests.
Initial days of marriages are the exceptions where the newlywed wants to share their personal spaces with their partners only otherwise giving personal space to the partner is always a sign of a happy marriage where both the partners have the right to utilise their space according to their interests.
These are the most common 11 rules, by following them you can make your married life happy and peaceful.
What do you think about the topic? Share with me in the comment section.
Till then take care of your relationships.
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Regards & Gratitude,